Should I leave her? Or what can I do?

[jayjays]

I have been with my gf for around 4 years now and Im having problem with her with regards her physical appearance. (I know physical appearance shouldn't matter, but it does for me and I dont know why. Hope you'll understand) She's kinda gaining a lot of weight. She started gaining like 2 years ago. And when it started out, I kept silent and just let it be because I thought it was just a stage for her. But then a year later, she just gained more weight so I did tell her that she did gain some weight, but she actually didn't made any effort. She even thought that she is very skinny because of her friends telling her so. Im not even sure now if its just that Im tired of her or she is really gaining weight. However aside that, her personality is just what I love the most. She is vary caring and loving, there maybe some down sides from her being clumsy, but I eventually got pass that. I think Im not attracted to her anymore. I also broke up with her, but we eventually got back together, and it was like a year ago already. I also met a new girl, she is really pretty and I just can't take my mind of her, literally. I want to ask her out, but I cant because I feel like a f***** jerk if I do that. But then I also feel like theres a connection between this new girl! But in terms of her personality, she's o.k. but sometimes she is really shy or quite. I know its kinda bad that Im thinking about another girl even though im with my gf, but for about a year, I think I lost my interest for her, physically. Its like her personality is really what I like, but her appearnce dissapeard. Should I leave my current gf? Or is there any way I could make our relationship better? Any advice or experiences would be appreciated!

[kitkitkitty]

if your gf lost weight/ at least started getting toned up would you stop thinking about this other girl? if you think you'd still be pining after this other girl i think you're just plain losing interest in her altogether. you've been together for a long time so she feels very comfortable with you. you should also feel comfortable enough to talk to her about this. don't mention the other girl but say that recently you think that she doesn't seem to make an effort and you really miss her doing so. if she takes it on board then do it together [home-cooked meals, long walks..] and if she gets all immature about it then maybe she is infact not the one for you. but tread carefully around the subject of a girl's weight, i'm sure you know that anyway.

[Boisdevie]

Look, if she is fat and you don't fancy her then move on.