Please, assist? Am I silly and who shall I chose :S

[silly_me]

Dear All,

Thank you in advance for paying attention to my post.

Actually, it is a known issue. I am torn between two people. I hate living in hypocrisy-pretending if nothing is happening. But it is.

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, we just moved out together . He loves me, he is faithful and a person who really respect me. However, I am very distressed with him. He just cracks jokes, sometimes obscene that get on my nerves. Also our lovelife is not going well at all. I cannot stand the animal instinct and the way he shows he wants me. Practically, he is a good natured but a bit primitive in his manners and attitude that piss me off and make me raise my voice

The guy number 2: I hardly know him, but I remember the first time he looked me in the eyes- so calm, so peaceful, so tender. We chatted for some days, I went out with him and it was very funny. He payd attention to me, he is very gentle in an non intrusive way and I feel calm. SO of course I could not resist feeling so calm, etc and slept with him. That was great, all was great.

So...what shall I do know :S I do not think it is only sex.....

pleaase , help :S

[mishal]

but I remember the first time he looked me in the eyes- so calm, so peaceful, so tender. We chatted for some days, I went out with him and it was very funny. He payd attention to me, he is very gentle in an non intrusive way and I feel calm.

every thing start this way and im sure that u and guy number 1 start this way too

and slept with him. That was great, all was great.

u end every thing when u did that

that what all i have to say

thank u

[silly_me]

so, I am silly, empry-headed bitch that pays too much attention to irrelevant details, rather thane the whole... I see,,,thanks

[SapphireBerry]

I have this problem too (on a harsher scale), but mines a little different, I have a wandering eye with sexual attraction but hey I’m a teenager.

I think the way you should go about this is to see if you and guy number 1 are actually going anywhere and of you are not then only best to break it off with him. Do you really love him? Ask yourself this or are you only staying with him because you feel bad and pity him? If so, it’s not fair and the best option to take is to tell him you don’t really feel like you are going anywhere with him. But just remember no guy is ‘perfect’ every guy has flaws no matter how clear they are on the surface. For all you know guy number 2 may be a complete asshole 2 years down the track. Best to get to know guy number 2 discreetly before you start doing the ‘ditching’. You don’t wanna do something you’re totally gonna regret because if you end up with the other guy you slept with (which was a bad move) and he is horrible to you and not as ‘calm’ as you thought then truly you’ll be in a state of heartache. This is your choice as to how you go about this but just give your partner a chance and get to know guy number 2 first. Give yourself a chance too to come to terms with how you’re feeling.

Good luck,
Sapphire x