Does the whole 'treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen' thing really work for you men?
Im having troubles with my boyfriend and starting to think my only option is to keep a distance with him and act like i am not phased by it all. I do everything for my boyfriend, i cook his tea, i fetch his drinks, i clean his clothes, i tidy up after him constantly.. i pack his lunch for work, you name it i do it. . . . I was recently diagnosed with a rare form of anemia and had to have a bone marrow biopsy.. i struggled to walk for a few days and my illness makes me really tired, i also suffer from depression so suffer from low moods also.. when im having a bad day or when i feel like i need to rest or even just after my biopsy, my boyfriend didnt help me at all. Instead he went out with friends. When he is with his friend, he gets stoned. I have told him from day 1 (we've been together a year and half) that i dont like him doing it and coming home to me as he gets in some real states.. its never been an issue as he stopped until this last few months where he goes out every weekend with his pals and comes home stoned at 4/5 in the morning...
He works through the week and shattered afterwards, when hes at home he sits on his laptop constantly... so we never really get chance to spend time together, so i would like to at the weekends, yet my boyfriend.. no matter what i suggest doing, goes out with his friends to sit in a carpark from mi-day till early hours the next day. He is 22 and i feel he should be abit more grown up personally.
Also i always feel as though i have pressured my boyfriend into sleeping with me. Sex is always insinuated by me.. and i would like to be jumped on every once in a while..when we do have sex, he doesn't touch me.. i have tried sexy underware, toys, trying to get him in the mood in different places, absolutely everything i can think of... but whilst we are having sex i dont enjoy it because its been such an effort to get him interested...
i have tried talking to him but nothing EVER changes. He says it will but it never does.. he's starting to make me feel really unappreciated and unattractive. I was considering just playing him at his own game and not acting interested in him, but does this really work?
is my boyfriend just too comfy?
or simply bored of me?