I am confused!

[Carla Dowell]

A few months ago I developed a strong physical attraction to a male colleague and it was obvious he also had this attraction to me by the way he looked and acted with me. We recently had a business trip together. We flew together and talked on the plane. He mentioned his wife and I mentioned my husband. We checked into the hotel and the restaurant owner suggested a nice restaurant a 15 minute walk away. As we started walking there my colleague got upset and insisted we turn around to eat in a more simple place. I said it was fine and we ended up eating on the street in a simple cafe. During the dinner he kept making references to his wife, including a comment that the next time he was in this town he would take his wife to the nice restaurant. (the one he refused to eat at with me) At one point a man came selling roses, saying that I was beautiful. My colleague and I both refused to buy the flowers. Then a man came asking for money for singing, and he said, "I will give money for this but not the other". I was a bit stunned because he was acting like he was having to make sure I understood that this wasn't a date, (which was so obvious since we were traveling together for work). At one point, I called my husband from the table almost in a gesture to reassure him that I didn't think anything more was going on! When we went back to the hotel, he practically ran to his room. I am so embarrassed by his behavior. I may have seemed slightly flirty, and smiled at him but no more than usual. I certainly never gave the impression I wanted to seduce him. But in the end I was really humiliated by his overkill in going on and on about his forthcoming "romantic" weekend with his wife, etc. It seemed strange for a colleague to insist on this with another colleague. I know that there is some spark between us and am wondering if this reaction from him wasn't more a way of convincing himself that nothing was going to happen between us, or was he really driving home a hard message to me?

[Spoonandfork]

why do you care? Do you like him romantically? I find it odd that you would go out of your way to post about it on a message board if nothing will happen between you two

[WICKED THOUGHTS]

I think ya, he found u attractive and if he ddnt hqve a wife... he would have been all over you. But, as u can see? His ddnt wanna go there... his just being a good husband. imo

[justcheckin]

I think he is a good person and he was freaked out that you guys were eating together and stuff and doesn't wanna ruin things with his wife. He was acting like that to make SURE that it couldn't come back to bit him in the ass in the long run.

He was telling you that he is not "in the market" in any way-shape-or-form.