EDIT: She's just contacted me. See my latest post below.
After a split and cutting off contact who should be the one to make the first move towards friendship and strictly friendship? The person who's been dumped is the one who's made to feel like something that cat's drug in. Is it up to him to decide that he's fine with everything and to make it known? Or is it up to her as she's the one who called it off in the first place?
I'm finally ok with everything and am ready to be friends. I've seen Facebook photos of her with her new boyfriend and they're dead happy together. I honestly don't know that I've ever brought anyone in my life such a smile. So truthfully, I'm happy for them. And I can say that because I'm happy with myself again. I've realized that I was partially using the novelty and emotional connection to fill a void in my life which I'd not even been aware of. The routine of uni and office work was suffocating me and strangling my pen. I was relying on her and her adventures to compensate. But this week I've come to recognize that. I've finally regained the inspiration and creativity I'd lost a year ago or longer. I'm passionate about what I'm doing and creating on my own and with friends and I'm content to be single again.
Now I've got opposing ideas of what to do. One line of thought says leave her alone entirely, letting her decide when or if she wants to talk to me again. I'll know I'm not imposing myself on her in anyway. The other view is that I should not worry about it at all and contact her if I've got a reason to do (same reason I'd contact any other friend). I just don't know if I'm being selfish in doing so. Making repeated efforts would be selfish, but a tidy message or conversation without any expectations and leaving it at that, that's not selfish is it? I should think it rather common.
Unless it's recommended otherwise, I was going to take option 2. I've just signed up for a transcontinental rally for next summer and have told some friends about it to see if it strikes their fancy. I thought it something she'd be into so I was going to tell her as well but stopped myself to make do this post. I want to go back to normal and be playful without thinking I'm sending the wrong message. I guess if that's normal for me, anything else would awkward, no?
Any advice would be helpful.