don't know what too do!

[VISHUN]

sooo about 2 months ago...

i met a girl...a friend of my best friends girlfriend...
at the time...she was very unhappy...with her current bf (i knew this by talking to her and all her friends)
seemed like the only reason they were together is becasue they were to gether for 2 years....which TIME is a bad reason to stay with anyone to me.

so i tried not to talk to her and not to go after her...but things just kept falling into place....

she tried to stop talking to me 2 times...first for a day them for 5...but she said she missed me and couldnt not talk to me...

so we started talking a lot....a few weeks later she broke up with her bf...i never pressured her to be with me "officially"
we started to see eachother a lot over the next few weeks....

and i know i didnt her give time to get over her ex and she didnt give herself time....but think we going how they were going...
out with friends...dates...over the house..made love...etc...we have perfect chemistry... physical and mental

so like this week...she saw him one night....she misses him..or missed how he used to be...
so i told her if she wants to be with him..she should...she should be happy..even if its not with me...
n i then told her..if she wants to cont. to see him...she shouldnt be seeing me....

so she saw him a second time...n i said my piece...everything i neede to say...and that i still do want her but she needs to come get me and ive done all i can do...

now as of yesterday...she talked with my best friends gf and said she wasent getting back with her X and just wants to be alone..
and in her own words "didn't think its fair to me, if she is still thinking of another guy" so im thinkin she still misses me??

i just don't know if i should do it how i did before and not hit her up at all and she if she comes back to me..or hit me up..like she did both times before....or if i should text or something and tell her i miss her......or do it a month from now...

do i go after her or just chill??

its been really hard on me personally...n its been a long time sense ive liked someone this much...normally i wouldnt look back...

help

[girl68]

You chill you leave her alone because that's specifically what she said. Until her mind is made up stay away.

[Judie]

First of all, it's not very easy for me to follow your story so please correct me if I misunderstood anything. It seems like she has not yet gotten over her ex so she needs time to take care of herself and clear her mind. She also sounds like she does care about you quite a bit and does not want to hurt you or do you wrong while she still hasn't reseolved feelings for her ex. Generally, people need some time to buffer between relationships. Therefore, if you really care for her and want to be with her, you can try sticking around and be there for her. When she's ready, she'll come around. Rushing things at the moment is not fair to either of you. Good luck!

[Agape]

"and i know i didnt her give time to get over her ex and she didnt give herself time"
"she talked with my best friends gf and said she wasent getting back with her X and just wants to be alone"
"in her own words "didn't think its fair to me, if she is still thinking of another guy" so im thinkin she still misses me??"

I think you've pursued it too fast . . .you need to relax and give her some space to get over her ex