Finding the right time to 'ask a girl out' ?

[IamTHATguy]

Here's my situation in a quick way.

I meet a girl 3 years ago, we date for 1 month, doesn't work due to being colelagues, didn't work at work.

I meet a new girl, spend 18 months with her, break up with her.

Now the girl i worked with (who i no longer work with) who i have always liked, comes to me, and we start talking again.

We start texting, and meet up, goes well, we kissed and had a good time.


So anyway, when is the right time to ask this girl out, i really like her, and pretty sure that she feels the same way.
Is there such thing as too soon? too late? the right time? I don't want to ask her out to which she thinks i'm rushing everything.

[Boisdevie]

If you have already kissed what is the problem? Just ask her.

[Poetic_Partner]

Sorry, but I fail to see the difficulty here. You dated her in the past, and have meet up with her recently. You like her and she likes you.

What you do is say/text "I'd like to take you out to dinner next week. What night's good for you? I'm pretty much free every night but Thursday - gotta work Well, anyway, hope to hear back from you soon. "

-PP

[girl68]

If you're young chances are "asking a girl out" means making it official as opposed to asking on a date.

If you want to make it official just take her out and say something along the lines of blah blah blah I only do this with girls I want to be my girlfriend... so will you be? her: "awww, yes!"

[all alone]

Sounds like you already went on an official date.. so this should be easy as cake, since you guys kissed as well..

[Agape]

Only you could tell if it's too soon or too late. . . but I see any problem with it

You were with girl 1, didn't work out, then you moved on to girl 2, it worked out till recently, now you have a chance again with girl 1

[IamTHATguy]

Yeah, but she's well aware from my split a month ago, so i don't want her to think im just rushing in a new relationship by asking her to make it 'official'.
I'm not sure what she's thinking.

I'm not even sounding cheesy here, but this girl always has been the one i've liked, i originally got with my recent EX due to helping me cope with getting over this girl, and i did fall in love with her and stuff, but i never felt like i did for the girl im seeing now. I can't believe she's still into me, or is into me again, it's unreal.

I just don't want to blow it or make things awkward with one stupid move.

[Poetic_Partner]

Sorry Guy, wasn't aware you were asking about being her steady boyfriend - was thinking you were simply asking how to ask for a date.

A month is plenty of time assuming you are over your ex. You could try something like your own version of:

"I'm glad we had a chance to start spending time together. You know, I really don't have any desire to see anyone else - you make me feel good about myself."

Say it from the heart, truthfully and in your own words.

She will either say "Aww - that's so sweet. I like you too and would love to go out with you."
Or, "Aww - that's so sweet. I like you too, but I don't know if I want a boyfriend right now. I'd love to spend more time with you though. You make me feel good about myself too."

Of course, she could be tonge tied and give one of those non-answers, but we'll leave that for another post if needed!

Good luck,
PP

[IamTHATguy]

So, given all the circumstances, you believe asking her in the next few days wouldn't be, too soon?

The last thing i want her to think is 'god, he's rushed through all this'.
Also, in the understanding situation that she says no, i'll feel like she's just using me for what i can offer her, i wouldn't be ready for a no i don't think, would knock me back.

[Agape]

"you believe asking her in the next few days wouldn't be, too soon?"

Who knows till you ask, but she has kissed you so that's a good sign

[Charlie Boy II]

I disagree with some of the advice in this thread.

Don't ever ask a girl to be your girlfriend after one date. It's too soon and you look desperate. You should be dating for at least a month or two first. Otherwise you are rushing it and it may scare her off. Much better move to wait. What is the rush anyway? Just go on a few dates first.