relation break

[dragonovus]

I've got some issues about my relationship with a wonderfull girl..

well erm, we are together for almost 11 months and the last 3 months my girl felt insecure about our relationship..
she isn't very happy right now hower we always do a videocall on msn.. so when we do that, she is always happy and has fun with me.. she even gives me kisses.

Last time i went to her for 2 days, i went on a field trip with her and her dog club. and she said it was very fun with me. When i waited on my train to get back home, she really kissed me alot :o...

so here is my problem.. a few weeks ago she said "i don't really know if i like you or love you" " i want some more time for myself.." and then suddenly she wanted a break.. I'm very happy with her, i'm trying to do my best i even text her less than normal to give her space.. i say nice words to her and i really love her.. soo she said she was scared of making the wrong descision about breaking up.. so that's why she wanted a break to see if she misses me...

i'm really stuck with my feelings and this situation, and i really don't wanna lose a girl like her!

the break starts tomorrow.. for 1 week.. i may not text her or see her..

what should i do? should i give her some rest or something.. or what should i do to make her missing me because that's what it's all about (for her)

[reeba]

well at least the break has a time limit on it. have you come up with any other rules such as are you allowed to date? and if you are allowed to go out on a date what are the rules for what you can do?

i sometimes shake my head in disbelief with some of the things people find acceptable behaviour while dating. she needs a week break to see if she loves you? you two must be very young to think this will help her decide if she loves you or not. you know i don't need to poke my eye with a stick to figure out if it will hurt or not. some things are just common sense.

let her have her week. doubt if it will give her any earth shattering revelation on if she is in love or not. but what is a week.

[dragonovus]

well the rules are the same as if we are in a relationship.. so no dating or kissing or other things during the break. as time goes by i come to realise that i acted kinda immature about several things.. i always wanted to knowwhat she was doing and who she was talking with so i know see that i was maybe too needy.. now i'm cool, relaxed, it seems that my personality has changed a bit, i now think about descissions in a logical/rational way.. and maybe i have to stand up for myself and dare to say "no" to things.. though i understand her, it's becomming too much sometimes for her so maybe it's a good thing that we're on a break but i really hope she still wants me.. but yeh, you don't know what you got till it's gone..

[BackUpOrGetStng]

You're an idiot for agreeing to this. Just call her and tell her the break isn't working for you think it's best to just move on. She won't like that it's not ending on her terms and it will force a decision out of her and you won't be stuck in limbo waiting for her to tell you that she doesn't actually love you. End it with her immediately, or you at least need to tell her that you're going to start seeing other women. Right now she thinks she's got you by the balls and you'll do anything to keep her. You have to show her that's not the case and that she is about to lose you for good.