Dont know what to think?!?!?

[brit_chick25]

Hiya everyone. Not sure if i have put this in the right place but i wanna hear what men think. Right hear is what i got to say.............I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He has got a work christmas party coming up & his boss is paying for everyone to stay in a hotel for the night & partners are not invited There is this girl who he works with that is newly single. I might be worng but i think they like each other!! He keeps looking at her on facebook!?!? Why the hell is he doing that?? I also read one of his emails that he sent to her & it said hes gonna buy her a drink at the party !!! I do not trust her one bit & i am not sure if i trust my boyfriend 100%!!

Looking forward to what you have all got to say............Thanks

[xxazurexx]

I'd pack his clothes, throw them out onto the lawn and then have him follow them.

It's obvious he fanices her if he keeps gawping at her profile and mailing her offering to buy drinks.

Up to you if you want to sit around and await the inevitable happening.....personally I would not. I don't fck around with slimeballs anymore who give me zilch cause to trust.

[brit_chick25]

I understand what your saying & thanks for your reply but do you really think he would do it!?!? Or do you think it might be me?!?!?


Any men out there that can help me?!?!?!?! PLEASE!!!!

[WICKED THOUGHTS]

Theres a 50/50 that something may happened if they flirt with each other now... specially if alcohol is involved? But, its hard to know if its gnna happen right? You just need to have a heart to heart with him and tell him you love him and not to break your heart. Good luck

[MadMardegan]

How is he supposed to feel when he hears that you've gone through his emails?

[girl68]

What's alarming is that you don't trust him after 5 freggin' years. I suggest you dig deep and figure out whY!

[jrharvey]

Your boyfriend is constantly checking her profile and offered to buy a drink for her. Coming from a guy I think he's interested. There is a SMALL chance they could just be good friends and nothing more but from most guys I know... that is slim. Also, think about it. Even if nothing happens that doesnt mean he doesnt want to. Personally its all the same difference to me. He may try and get shot down or not have the guts. Personally, I would just ask him. As a guy I can say that I do think about other girls BUT I am more happy with my current girl then I could possibly be with any other so I dont chance it or even think of cheating. Some guys just dont feel that way though.

[VincenzoG91]

That sounds suspicious about the employer paying for hotel rooms and not allowing spouses or significant others. I don't believe it.

At the fanciest office Christmas party that I ever attended (the company spent over $1,000 per person), they just paid for free cab rides. That party included all-night rental of a fancy restaurant with a great view of downtown, a multi-course feast for 80 people, a DJ, an ice sculpture, tuxedo rentals for the guys, an open bar, and two dozen casino game operators, along with $10,000 in door prizes to the top 25 winners at the casino game tables.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

I agree with Vincenzo, that it seems a bit far fetched. If a company is going to pay for hotel rooms, they are going to allow partners to come to the party. There is way too much room for impropriety in a situation where hotel rooms are provided, regardless of whether or not partners are invited, that I doubt an HR department would sign off on that, especially with no partners allowed. Either way, it should not be hard to find out, just call his office and ask to speak to the person who organizes events.

[brit_chick25]

Theres a 50/50 that something may happened if they flirt with each other now... specially if alcohol is involved? But, its hard to know if its gnna happen right? You just need to have a heart to heart with him and tell him you love him and not to break your heart. Good luck

Hiya WICKED THOUGHTS. Thanks 4 ya reply. We had a heart to heart a few months ago & nearly split up but it was him that said lets work on things & stay together, now if he was gonna cheat on me then surely he wouldnt of said that!?!?

[brit_chick25]

What's alarming is that you don't trust him after 5 freggin' years. I suggest you dig deep and figure out whY!

Hiya girl68. Thanks for your reply. I am not sure why i am so insecure!?! I know i have got a problem tho! I wish i could get a grip & just trust him. I trust him about 90% at the mo. I think it might be because my ex cheated on me & i dont see my self as sexy, pretty, smart or that i have got a good figure & i always pull myself down! It also doesnt help that my boyfriend doesnt tell me that i am sexy, pretty, smart or that he loves me often (if that makes sence?) I think girls need to be tould that all the time......am i right or is it just me?

[brit_chick25]

Your boyfriend is constantly checking her profile and offered to buy a drink for her. Coming from a guy I think he's interested. There is a SMALL chance they could just be good friends and nothing more but from most guys I know... that is slim. Also, think about it. Even if nothing happens that doesnt mean he doesnt want to. Personally its all the same difference to me. He may try and get shot down or not have the guts. Personally, I would just ask him. As a guy I can say that I do think about other girls BUT I am more happy with my current girl then I could possibly be with any other so I dont chance it or even think of cheating. Some guys just dont feel that way though.

Hiya jrharvey & thanks for your reply. I have asked him & he said that he cant get his head around me thinking like this & that i have got this wild imagination!!

[brit_chick25]

I agree with Vincenzo, that it seems a bit far fetched. If a company is going to pay for hotel rooms, they are going to allow partners to come to the party. There is way too much room for impropriety in a situation where hotel rooms are provided, regardless of whether or not partners are invited, that I doubt an HR department would sign off on that, especially with no partners allowed. Either way, it should not be hard to find out, just call his office and ask to speak to the person who organizes events.

Hiya BackUpOrGetStng & thanks for your reply. I dont think he is lieing about his boss paying for hotel rooms as he does it every year but my boyfriend didnt work there last year. He has got to share a room with his male work colleague. They dont have to stay in the hotel but i think he will be as the party is about 3 hours away from where we live.

[KimberlyH]

I think facebook is a relationships worst nightmare. he shouldnt be looking at her pics and offering to buy her drinks if he is satisfied with you. you need to tell him straight how you feel. also i agree with the others, the way the employyes cant bring their partners. i wouldnt beleve that in a million years.

[xxazurexx]

I understand what your saying & thanks for your reply but do you really think he would do it!?!? Or do you think it might be me?!?!?


Any men out there that can help me?!?!?!?! PLEASE!!!!

Why wouldn't he do it?

My hubby cheated on me and I DIDN'T think he would....lol

His behaviour points to the fact, he is interested in this other female. Men don't ogle women they don't find attractive constantly and they don't offer to buy women they don't fancy drinks either.

I wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him and I doubt any woman in a relationship with a guy for FIVE years would be happy with the fact he was ogling another woman on Facebook constantly and offering to buy her drinks at this party.

You ARE NOT insecure......he's giving you cause to be concerned!