Will she make the sacrafice??

[boston]

Back log--I am currently very seperated and going through a divorce. I have been married to my wife for three years and together for 10. We had a wonderful life, very privleged an felt we were the lucky ones to find that one person we were meant to be together. My wife works at company where there is a significant amount of fraternization after work and slowly she began to get involved. I began to notice a change in her attitude and we began to not get along. We ended up seperating and I found that my suspicions were right abou her having an affair with a married man. I am an attractive man, have a great job and for the most woul give the world to my wife so when I asked why she merely said she was weak and stupid. I wantto forgive her but then found out that even while were are sperated she will still go out with those work friends where he ill be present. For several more months she woul comeby on a regular basis..dinner..movie..romance, same thigs we would always do except stay home. I finally decide I was going to move. She pesented to me that she was very sad and did not want me to go but maintained that distance giving me the feeling she really didnt care. I have been gone for almost a month and her and I talk or text several times a day, in those conversations she states she loves me and misses me and does not feel right about anything that has happened. I love my wife, but I feel that in order for us to ever have a chance she will have to leave her comfort zone just as I did and make that sacraficial move ( which strangley enough I found that two days ago she looked t seeif her cmpan had an office here). I never felt it possible that two people who still love each other would ever get a divorce.

I would appreciate your thoughts

[IncognitoSir]

Can you be a bit clearer on what you're asking us?

[Ariadne]

Based on the typonese, I believe the OP is drunk posting.

[Poetic_Partner]

Boston,

I doubt she will give up her new love easily. Plus, it will be hard to trust her not to do so again.

So, I'll turn the tables and ask are YOU willing to sacrifice? She's not likely to change, so the ball's in your court. You either have to find another woman who will love you, but will not sleep around - or, you have to accept that she loves you but may sleep around, and set some ground rules for such.

The genie's out of the bottle and you have a decision to make.

-PP