Three months is my limit?

[Spring]

My last boyfriend and I started dating August 5. He exposed me to many firsts in our relationship - most notably, kissing. Yesterday he called, but my phone line was on the fritz and was making loud buzzing noises, so we retreated to chatting on Facebook chat.

My replies were a little slow in the beginning because I was talking to a long distance friend who I haven't been able to talk to in three months, so we were catching up with each other.

[boyfriend] 3:04pm
did not call me frick

[You] 3:12pm
I was going to call you within the next two minutes

[boyfriend] 3:12pm
lies and deceit haha

[You] 3:12pm
:'(
-poke-

[boyfriend] 3:13pm
-gets poked-

[You] 3:13pm
I don't know what's up with the phone :<

[boyfriend] 3:18pm
ya it's just a little annoying, oh well

[boyfriend] 3:34pm
hey [my name]?

[You] 3:35pm
yes?

[boyfriend] 3:35pm
umm i kinda want to talk about something serious if you have the time

[You] 3:36pm
sure

[boyfriend] 3:37pm
well it's regarding us. How do you think this relationship is going so far?

[You] 3:37pm
I think it's going very nicely

[boyfriend] 3:39pm
that's the thing, i'm just really....gah, i'm not sure exactly. Like i do like you, just lately i've been having second thoughts, the whole "love" thing was way too rushed and i was being nieve to say it to you, it wasn't fair to say something that i wasn't sure if it was true or not
lately i've just been thinking alot
like, you are a sweet girl and have done NOTHING wrong. i'm just wondering if we are a great match is all
what do you think, have you had any thoughts like this at all?

[You] 3:41pm
I've sometimes wondered if we are a great match, yes, but then I think about it and realize that I can't imagine loving anyone nearly as much as I love you.

[boyfriend] 3:46pm
that's the thing, they say love can conquer all but you've only been in a couple relationships...i really think what you feel isn't love. its just a clouded infatuation

[You] 3:51pm
So what do you suggest, then?

[boyfriend] 3:54pm
i think we rushed it, and felt things that weren't there. I want to be friends if anything. I want you to know that you have done absolutely nothing wrong, and you are a good person. Don't beat yourself up please. This is just a horrible learning experience

[boyfriend] 4:00pm
Just lately i've been thinking of you more as a friend as time went on. I know that this is the better choice for both of us

[You] 4:07pm
If that's what you really want, then.

[boyfriend] 4:08pm
i'm not doing this to be spiteful or mean, i really do think it's the best choice for both of us.

[You] 4:09pm
I know

[boyfriend] 4:09pm
i'm really sorry.

I think I only cried for ten minutes. Since then I keep thinking about the things we did together, which resulted in me not falling asleep until after four in the morning. I've promised myself that I won't call him or anything to try and return things to the way they were - I learned the hard way with the previous relationship.

I'd like to know if my responses were okay.

Is there anything else I can do, or is this the end of the road?

This is the third of my four relationships that have lasted three months. The last two, I was on the receiving end of the breakup because they stopped loving me and considered me more as a friend.

*sigh* I know I'm still young, but I feel awfully empty and lonely. Not even a night out with my sister helped.

[madotnw_nihs]

Do you know that they did love you at one point and just have become uninterested? I just can't see loving someone for just three months. In his messages to you, they seem too cordial where it seems distant.

[Spring]

I know that he loved me, because (for example) on a few occasions when I was stressed (and crying) about something, he would look me in the eye and say things that would cheer me up, and that things will get better. (I've always had a problem dealing with stress, but in the past month I've been doing a lot better.) He always wanted me to be happy, and I always wanted him to be happy.

[madotnw_nihs]

Hello, I am not trying to play devil's advocate nor am I trying to convince you he doesn't love you. I gather that you are still young. Most guys are not mature until a much later time. Many times they are not sure of what they want in a relationship. My gut feeling is that there isn't a way to salvage this relationship nor is it worth it. I think you just want to know what went wrong and how to avoid it in the future. My advice is try to date guys that know what they want because it's clear you don't want a short term relationship.

Take Care