Hello all - I'm new

[blackiesharley]

Nice to find this board. A little about myself...

I was with someone for eleven years, married for seven. (No kids) In September of 2002, she announced out of the blue that it was over... 'we've grown apart.' I had no choice but to accept that and deal with it, but the problem was that we owned a house together, tons of equity but no cash for either of us to move out. Plus, the house still needed lots of work to get ready to sell so...we were stuck as 'room-mates, seperate bedrooms. Ackward as that sounds, we got by.

House finally sold and we each went our seperate ways. Emotionally, I've done pretty well. I was over her pretty much within a few months back in 2002.

I've recently started dating again and yet it's difficult. I have no problem meeting ladies, online or off. (Strangely, I'm finding kookier people at the mini-market, the gym, through family friends or clubs than I am online!) If I may say so myself, I'm considered good looking and personable, kinda a 'rock star' look (I was in the music business) was with someone for the last 2.5 months, but that didn't work out.

I KNOW that the right person for me is out there, we just haven't met yet.

It IS lonely sometimes. That's why I'm here. For support from people that are going through the same thing.

[sleepy]

hey - welcome! it's a great community here.

i expect it's a hard time for you now; you sound quite levelheaded, though.

what exactly happens with the women that you meet? just no spark?

[blackiesharley]

Hi Sleepy-

Thanks for your nice welcome.

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what exactly happens with the women that you meet? just no spark?
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I could write a book Often there's no spark or... A few examples....

An online date that ended up not being the person who's pictures she had originally sent. Why do people do that? I'm not superficial but lying is lying.

Another... Introduced through a family friend. She spent the entire date talking about her alcohlic ex, that she had broken up with four days prior. I now know where he hides his wine bottles, as she went into details. (She ended up going back to him)

Another...Met standing in line at the neighborhood market. Really cute, we exchanged numbers, she called me a few days later and wanted to meet for drinks. We did. Great conversation, played some jukebox at the club, shot some pool, then walked outside for a smoke. "I want you to meet my son and daughter" she said. She reaches up under her shirt and pulls out the biggest rats I have ever seen that had been asleep in her bra. She kisses them and then put's them on my shoulder. UGH!!!! (This is true, you can't make this stuff up)

Another... We met online. Instant major mutual attraction in person. We went from meeting to instant relationship, just add water. We both got scared and ran. That's too bad,.

Another... Again online, she saw my picture, I didn't see her's but she sounded really nice. Meet for a drink, If I had been gay and had a thing for Sly Stallone circa Rocky III, it would have been love at first sight. When the waitress asked 'do you gentlemen want another round?' I wanted to crawl under the table. Cool person though, I must admit.

Lastly, and the most sad in a way is another online meeting. She turns out to be a neighbor. We meet, it wasn't instant chemistry it was the entire labatory. We were together for the next three days until we had to go back to work, together again, lot's of phone calls, (mostly from her) I'm hearing the I love you, I miss you, she even hinted about moving in. Then last week I receive an email from her. "It's over, my career comes first and this is becoming too much for me."

Please understand that I'm not picky about looks or weight. (The last one, above was 5'2 -170" and I thought she was beautiful) Attitude is what matters to me.

Meanwhile, I know, I just KNOW that there's a lady out there that will appreciate a guy like me, I just haven't met her yet, but I will. Maybe tonight, Maybe in two years, but I will.

Sorry about the ramble....

[kanzaki]

well

*waves pom pom*

go go go!! ale ale ale!!

u go!

[Illusional]

lonely huh?? well being single can be the loneliest place on earth, but it can also be the best. i love the single life for now. i don't have to deal with all the problems of a relationship which enables me to drink as thought i believe i am an alcoholic, but i'm really not an alcoholic.

raverboy

[sleepy]

the rat one is so brutal! i treasure eccentricity in people, but that is beyond the pale. i had a marxist almost-boyfriend once, who showered me with pamphlets, but no small mammals.

well, good luck - post your pic and i'm sure the girls here will hunt you

[blackiesharley]

the rat one is so brutal! i treasure eccentricity in people, but that is beyond the pale.
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Me too, BUT my 20 lb cat and 90 lb Dobie-Wieller would not get along well with her "son and daughter.'

I'll post a pic. How do I do it?

[Kiechi]

Welcome to the forum.

[princess2u]

OMG...i had the same issue! HOLY COW....i also lived with my X as a roomy....seperate bedrooms, however, we did have a child together. I know the dating thing sucks but you will get back in the swing of it...pm me if you would like to chat...nice to know someone else going thru the same thing