There's this guy i adore in my office and we've worked together for about a year now. I'm going through a divorce now but I've been moved out on my own for a while. He has been there for me when no one else has. We're the best of friends but there's always been sparks there. He means the world to me. We go out and joke about being married because everyone assumes we are. He takes me to dinner and movies and this year he invited me to go home with him for thanksgiving, as a friend ofcourse. So I got there and his ENTIRE extended family was there an they thought we were dating, he never once corrected them! We watched movies together in bed and cuddled but never anything more than G-rated. He didn't kiss me or anything.
In front of his parents he asked me to join them again for Christmas. They were so excited and they expect me to visit before then too. So after 4 days at their house he took me home, I asked him if the divorce was his only reason for not really dating me. He said that and work. Then he left. It was awkward and horrible. I know he has feelings for me, but I don't understand why he's holding back!
My question is, why would he let our friends and family and coworkers think we are together but he won't actually date me? Why introduce me to mom and pop and lead them to believe we're together?
Why put in so much effort without going for it? I didn't ask him to marry me for Gods sake, I asked him to date me! Why would he be so happy to play pretend but doesn't want to take a real risk? He expects me to do that again over Christmas?!! What is going on here?