case of the ex

[lovedrugs]

I've just recenty started seeing this guy, who I've been best friends with for a couple years now. At first, it was a little weird for me, moving from friendship to something deeper. It sounds like the perfect set up but, I've got a major problem with his exgf. She cannot seem to leave him alone, and let him move on with me. This chick had cheated on him, and it left him devastated. Naturally I was the one he turned to, when they broke it off, and they had broke up almost 10 months ago, but because she refuses to let him go, she kept her face around and actually forced them to try to get back together. I say forced because, whenever he would talk to me, he always ended up telling me how unhappy he is and stressed out he is because of her. She has a new bf now, but she is still making conscious efforts to stay in my guyfriend's life, which isn't right. It's like, she wants to have her cake and eat it too.
This chick went even so far as to buy him xmas gifts. I can't talk to him about how I'm feeling right now because hes gone out of the country. He told me he would contact me when he gets the chance to. Before he left, we spent sometime together, to touch base and say goodbye. For me, it was the most intimate moment I've shared with him; I've never been shown such affection and never felt so much emotion through something simple as an embrace.
We kept in contstant contact until the day he departed, telling each other how much we'd miss each other and how much we both anticipated the date of his return so that we could see and be with each other again. Things sounded great, until, I found out, he spent his last few hours before his flight departed with his EXGF. I do not appreciate this. at all.
As you can imagine, I am, distraught and angry and confused, and well, hurt. I understand that he isn't over her, because that will take time, but he isnt helping himself by spending time with her, especially on the day of his departure. He should have spent that time with me. I don't know what they did and that scares me and makes me really anxious.
All I want are answers, and I know I cannot get them until he returns, a month from now.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Start seeing other guys, and tell him that you'll take this relationship seriously when he cuts contact with her. His response will give you all the answers you need.