Is She Interested?

[lcm2009]

Hi there, I'm new here, my names thomas!

I have a dilemma. Theres a girl who works at bank I visit, she gives financial advice. Now, I see her once every 2 weeks or so, I'm really into her but I don't know if she feels same way. I'd say I was average Looking or so, but somtimes I'm shy. I can't tell if shes interested or not, but somtimes she gives subtle signs

- Last time I was there, she was like " what are you doing tonight? I'm bored, I want to go pub " she said that twice, she actually stopped what she was doing to ask that

- The first time I met her, she was saying next time your hungover and don't want to come in, I'll meet you in the pub instead. Now I don't know whether she meant that for real, or as an off comment, Seemed a strange thing to say

- Shes very talkative. I know it's her job to interact with customers and clients, but she doesnt stand to make any money from me and she does chit chat a lot, asking which clubs I go to and what do I drink etc

Any advice would be appreciated!

thanks

[sweetkissesforu]

She is in2 you ask her to meet later for a drink

[sweetkissesforu]

hope this might answer

[MerryH]

- Last time I was there, she was like " what are you doing tonight? I'm bored, I want to go pub "

She was totally giving you an opening to ask her out. Your reply should have been, "I have no plans for tonight. Let's meet up at the pub."

[lcm2009]

I've met her twice before, I have a meeting again with her on thursday, this will be last one until January, and then that will be last one until April!

Should I get her a christmas card or would that be kind of weird?

[OkieDokie]

Sorry, I'm a male posting here in the female section.

I haven't been on the dating scene in a while but hearing " what are you doing tonight? I'm bored, I want to go pub " should be an indicator that she would like to see you outside of her workplace and is atleast somewhat interested in you. At the very least she wants someone to drink with. I hope it's that easy for me once things are settled.

[ammi00]

No X-mas cards... Ask her out! Don't wait anymore; women like confident guys so act asap.

[Boisdevie]

ARE YOU STUPID? Of course she's into you - she basically asked you out and what did you do? Nada, nothing. Ask her out you idiot. She could not have made it more clear.

[lcm2009]

*Update*

well I rang her today to arrange meeting, on phone she said she cant do xx date because xxx reason, so I said well shall I come in a time more suitable, and she said.. no come in and see my colleuge. Doesnt really sound like she wants to see me, surely if shes interested she would of jumped at chance to meet me. Anyway I managed to make up excuse and booked another meeting with her, but getting some weird vibes!

[Boisdevie]

Sounds like you have blown your opportunity. She has wierd vibes? Probably because she basically told you she was interested in YOU and what did you do? - nothing.

[lcm2009]

well maybe im paranoid, when I say weird vibes, it just sounds like she wasnt that interested in having a meeting with me. This is last time I will see her until April, and she know's this so maybe shes found someone else or somthing. It's not as clear cut as it seems, if it was I would of asked

[Boisdevie]

She's probably got bored waiting for you to make a move and has found somebody else. You have blown it my friend.

[MerryH]

Wait, did you ask her out on a date, or did you set up some kind of work-related meeting? Sounds like it was a work-related meeting. So you were like , "Hey, I need to set up a meeting to talk about finances" and she was like, "I can't, but you can come in and talk to my coworker about that." and then you go, "Nooo. I want to meet with youuuu." And now she's giving you weird vibes because instead of asking her out after she gave you so many blatant openings, you're pussyfooting around and pretending to need to talk to her about work, which makes you look like a wiener. And also kind of a creep.

Sack up, man. Ask her out for drinks.

[lcm2009]

Wait, did you ask her out on a date, or did you set up some kind of work-related meeting? Sounds like it was a work-related meeting. So you were like , "Hey, I need to set up a meeting to talk about finances" and she was like, "I can't, but you can come in and talk to my coworker about that." and then you go, "Nooo. I want to meet with youuuu." And now she's giving you weird vibes because instead of asking her out after she gave you so many blatant openings, you're pussyfooting around and pretending to need to talk to her about work, which makes you look like a wiener. And also kind of a creep.

Sack up, man. Ask her out for drinks.

No, Iam meeting up with her because it's needed, about finances. This way it doesn't look weird. I didnt beg her to meet me, she gave me option of 3 days, and on the day I picked shes at her office christmas party, so she said meet with co-worker. I said I couldnt do that day, and now meeting on a day with her. Maybe I'm thinking about it too much

[MerryH]

Yeah, you are thinking too much about this meetup, since it's completely work-related and means nothing about anything other than business and her being obligated to see you because you're a customer. So this wasn't an update, really, it was just you telling us that you haven't done anything since you first posted. You still only know her as an acquaintance in a professional setting.

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