We've been together for 1 year and a half now...
Before we were together I was in another situation and he had just gotten out of one himself.... I wasn't in a position to be in a relationship but he made it VERY clear he was into me -- this went on for a year and we hung out as friends every few weeks... after my break up he did EVERYTHING he could to win me over ... flowers all the time... msgs telling me how many ways he liked me... telling me to give him the chance and he would treat me like a queen etc etc.... he would have walked on fire to be with me.
When we had both fully walked away from our past relationships we went home together one night and have been together since. At the beginning he was the BIGGEST gentlemen... we had sex 3 times a day .... and he took every opportunity to make sweet little gestures to prove to me how he felt.
Then it was like as soon as he knew he had totally won my heart ... he quit trying.....
I had to go on and off the pill as it was causing me some emotional issues which led to some fighting between us.
And he has a big stressful situation in his life going on that is also a big issue in all of this.
Since then he has not been into me at all - he gets home from work turns on the TV until 11 pm and falls asleep on the couch... if we do go up to bed he watches the news in bed and falls asleep..... he used to light candles and we would make love... i keep trying to make time or effort for us to be in an intimate situation like relax in the bath or give each other massages and he just turns them down - If i try to cuddle with him on the couch he says its uncomfortable... (how can he say that when he used to love me lying on his lap) - We went from having sex 3 times a day to 1 time every time days.
THIS IS NOT HOW HE WAS BEFORE!! If it was I would say its my fault for getting into it when I knew he was like that.
When he gets home from work he asks me nothing about my day... I could have been doing ANYTHING he would have had no idea and I'm not even sure he would care
When I do try to talk to him about it he blames it all on me and does not want to talk. It's always "Just shut up or go sleep in the other room"
I"m past my breaking point... now when we are together i'm so frustrated that when i'm in the situation i'm mad no matter what... I don't believe breaks but the more time we spend together like this our fights are going to get so bad I don't think we will ever have a future
HELP