Follow up to "Like A Boyfriend Without Sex"

[TygerTyger]

Hey everyone, I thought since I actually made a decision since my last post I'd tell you how it went..thanks for reading:

I originally posted "Like A Boyfriend Without Sex" a week or so ago on here. Basically it was about a guy I am hanging out with who wants to only be a friend, but buzzes around like a boyfriend, always hanging around, on FB, wanting to do me favors, etc.

There was some speculation he was gay (he's not) and some insight into what was going on that I think was pretty accurate..

Anyway, this left me with the age old situation of being stuck in the "Friend Zone."

Finally yesterday it came to a head, when I noticed he reopened his online dating profile and posted a blog entry. He went on to describe some of his dating adventures, and sited me as the one true friend he found who didn't shut him out when he decided he didn't want to be with anyone, etc.

What threw me was his description of our "mutual decision" that we were only going to be friends.

Uhh..this is NOT the case! I decided now was the time, let's talk.

Apparently he seems to believe I have never had any interest in him, that BOTH of us just wanted to be friends. I was floored that all this time he had assumed my feelings mirrored his. I actually at one point, months ago, came right out and told him I liked him. He said he thought I was just kidding around..that he didn't think he was my type! He just kept repeating he had no idea..no idea at all I had felt this way.

How can this be when I told him directly? Is this a case of not WANTING to hear it?

Anyway, bottom line is..I said the only way out of the friend zone was to leave it. So, I said we couldn't hang out anymore. I'm okay with the Facebook thing..he can just dissolve into one of the many "voices" I talk to there..but no more movies, dinners, events. Nothing.

So...here I am...I finally made the tough decision.

I'm sad this weekend, feeling alone..like..why on earth does all of this have to be so hard. Life is so short, such a brief stint..and still, even with a great connection with someone..we're still unable to make it work. So much time and energy spent chasing our tails. Sometimes ladies..the guy isn't gay, or afraid, or whatever excuse you hope it is..sometimes...he just isn't that into you.

Well, that's it. I guess I just wanted to actually show some results from advice asked for..I'm free...Alone but free! :/

[twinrexes]

Yes, life is short and there's a lot of tail-chasing involved, but hopefully we're learning as we go. You had a tough decision to make, but you did it and next time you find yourself in this kind of situation, you'll know what to do and a lot less time will be wasted. Going out and taking risks is a whole lot better than playing it safe and having a bland, boring existence, don't you think? And the sooner you put yourself out there again, the sooner some great guy will come along who REALLY wants to be with you!