A little confused

[MrUndersquee]

Well, let me start off by saying that this is my first post and I've been reading some of the old topics and am amazed at how nice all of you are. Now, on to my problem!

Anyway, so I've been really interested in this one girl now for a while. In fact, about a year and a half to two years now. Just the other day, Thursday actually, I got the balls to ask her out on a date, which I then proceeded to go on today. Now, since I've been into her for such a long time, I was needless to say, nervous. It was just a movie, nothing too big or anything.

Soooo, anyway, we saw the movie, and we talked quite a bit and I thought it was going well, and talked and blah blah. Anyway, at the end of the movie, we walked out, talked for maybe 10 seconds and she mentioned that she had a lot of fun a couple times. But then, pretty much as quickly as it started, it ended with her asking if I parked near her.. responding in the negative, she says she had fun and will talk to me later, then walks off. And right now, I'm feeling pretty unresolved about the whole situtation.

Now, I realize she had to leave and be back at her place by about 4 so she could see her older sister, and it was 3:30 then, but I'm still not sure if I should go for a second date, or not. Don't get me wrong, we talk a lot and are really personable to each other, but I have no clue whether or not to go for a second date, one that won't be rushed.

So guys, what do you think? I've been interested in this girl for a long time, got the balls to ask her out, it went well except for what I mentioned, but now, I don't know if I should pursue a second date even if I REALLY want to. In fact, I want this to work very much, but I'm a pessimist, you know.

[King Zarathu]

Well, let me start off by saying that this is my first post and I've been reading some of the old topics and am amazed at how nice all of you are.

Thanks! we love everybody here.

Now, on to my problem!

being pessimistic is dreadful for you.

yes, go out on a 2nd date, but make sure it isn't rushed next time. try and pursue a relationship if that's what you're interested in.

[squirrley]

Wait just a day and call her. Thank her for a nice time and keep it at short and simple talk. Then in a few days call her again and ask her out. Dont wait to call though, trust me, when men dont call the first thing a woman thinks is that the guy isnt in to her. But in your case, her acting "rushed" after the movie, you dont want to appear too eager. Call her tomorrow, then call again in a couple days. Always show your confidence!

[MrUndersquee]

I appreciate the replies, and that is my major problem. I always feel like I'm bothering someone, especially someone I'm interested in. And it's been a problem for a while now, so if I actually think that I'm bothering them, eventually I'll stop talking to them regularly and any interest they might have had in me evaporates. But I guess I can't ask for help with that, can I?

[King Zarathu]

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Good luck.

[squirrley]

Well, you can learn from you what you do, youre repeated behaviors. If something isnt working you change it. If you "give up" and walk away, how are you going to see where things go? And or if youre feeling as though these girls just give you no signals of interest I guess you do walk away. Just look at what it is that you see you do, does it work? How can I change it? What will make me feel better about my relationships? Start asking yourself questions, and see what happens! Gotta start somehwere!