I don't know what to do? (Long, sorry)

[Zack1978]

Hello,
I am new to this forum, so please be patient. Here is the situation: I am a 25 yr old male school teacher, who lives at home w/ my mother (parents div when I was an infant). Life at home is fine, no problems or issues, however I am "the man of the house"(if something breaks I fix it). My mom and I are close, and the rest of the "close" family is my grandmother, and my single uncle (mothers brother), the four of us are close and they do a lot for me and I do the same for them. And I don't mind spending time w/ my family!
Almost two years ago I met my current girlfriend @ school(she is also 25) (another teacher). She was/is my first serious girlfriend (1st sexual exp w/her), actually I never dated much at all till I was with her. Her situation was different, she went away to college had many boyfriends (claims only 3 sex partners) after college she moved back home, and met an older guy (28 at the time) and moved in with him. It seems as if she played like his wife for a year or so, but they just drifted and he did not want to get married and she moved back home. At one ponit she had an abortion w/ his baby. So I guess you couls say they were serious.
That is where I come I met her a week later, and we started dating. At first life was great I had a girlfriend who was very nice and very HOT. We became a couple and the relationship moved forward. It also moved VERY fast we were soon talking about marriage, and being together forever. Then the relationship took on sex, which was great. Then it seemed at some point I was always getting yelled at. Then she would complain that I would be doing things at home and not spending time w her. So being new at the game I gave in and the entire first summer, I was with her all the time. To a point that I almost cut off my mother, as I was never home. I was with her at all times. The tension at home was high, but I didn't care because I was with her. I just neglected everything at home and w my family. She does not get along w her mother and hates living at home, that is another reason why she want to get married )Ithink)
As the next school year started I was still doing many of the same things, but near the end of that year I was aloways being yelled at so I seemed to back away, and I repaired my relationship with my family. That summer I spent much time at home, and not that much with her.
Many of my friends feel as if she is abusive in yelling at me and the constant name calling of me and my family. They have all advised me to end it, even friends that know her well.
Well here is the root of the problem, I can not seem to let her go. She gives me threats to leave and I always beg her to stay in the relationship, and tell her that I love her and I want her forever. I know that she is not right for me, but I always beg her to stay. I can not let her go. I am going crazy, I know what I need to do but I can not seem to do it. I need help, how do I once and for all let her go? We do teach together, so I will always see her. What do I need to do to stop this? I feel as if I need another girlfriend lined up before I let her go? I guess I am just nervous about finding someone new. This is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life, how the hell do I do it?

Please help,
Zack

[Joe_Watson]

I know that she is not right for me, but I always beg her to stay. I can not let her go.

If you know she's not right for you, why the hell do you want her to stay? Yes, you can let her go. Look at her past. She moved in with some dude pretending to be his wife, she constantly yells at you, etc. Ask yourself why you want to be with someone like this. Your friends have a point. They are telling you to end it and you should. Why do you want to be with her? Do you beg her to stay because you fear you cannot find anyone else? Really, why? Leave her and preserve your sanity. You say you are going crazy. Leaving her is the cure. No girl is worth this. No one in your life should cause you this much grief. You will be much better off without her. Really, your life will improve if you let her go. Just break up with her and reap the benefits of a better life. No shit, man. Just do it.

By the way, you don't need to have a girlfriend "lined up". Your main fear seems to be not being able to find someone new. Through your daily interactions in life, you will meet new people. Just talk to them, get to know them, and then maybe you can be more than just friends with them... You get the picture. New people aren't that hard to meet considering there are billions of people everywhere you go. You just have to interact with them.

Hope this helps