I have been seeing this guy going on 7 months. As serious as were have been, we have not put a title on wht we have (more so his doing than mine. I was in agreeance at first but have since been ready to move forward and put a title on us) I have a toddler child and he and infant child (we began seeing each other 2 months before the child was born, he and the mother were not together).
When we first began seeing each other we were together ALL the time. So much so, that for about 2 months he was practically living with me (stayed with me EVERY NIGHT and has a key) we always disussed taking things slow (hence not putting a title) but our actions NEVER displayed such.
He says he's not ready for a relationship, even though from the outside looking in, hell, the inside looking its a relationship, because when we met he was recently out of long-term relationship, has this new baby and other situations he says he wishes to take care of before hand.
We have fallen in love with each other (i dont doubt that he loves me for one second) but my dilemma is I am tired of hearing the same excuses for not wanting to move forward with us. Its was the same excuse 3 months in and now at 7 months, I just think there should be some progression. I am looking to get married (he would like to be one day as well) and while I'm not saying marry me tomorrow, I need to know I'm not wasting my time, or being stuck on stupid.
In the meanwhile. I have a college ex who has been in love with me since day one and on after since our break-up 6 years ago(we were college lovers) I know that he would treat me right and is NOW ready for all the things I want to progress towards. I have a wishbone where my backbone should be becuase instead of "putting my foot down" in this 7 month relationship, i'm still wishing and living on the hope that "tomorrow" he'll think differently.
UGH!