WTF? is going on!!

[Fawn]

Now, I'm not a conceited person. I don't prize myself in my looks, but I admit I look nice and take care of myself.

Heres some background first...
Now, as I've mentioned in the dumping section, I just recently broke up and then stupidly got back together with my bf. So, I haven't been more confused about a situation in my whole life. I have recently tried to become less attached to him because he's most likely leaving in 5 mths.

Soooo... I've been trying to make new friends, either online or off. Basically, just wanting to talk to new people. So, there I am. I've made a few new friends online. Nice people actually.

Now, to the full story. I told a few people after my original break-up that were not together anymore. I was in a fit of panic.. and needed someone to talk too. Unfortunatly, some of them don't realise I'm actually back together with him. sortof.

Anyways, for some strangely odd reason I've been asked out on so many dates its driving me up the wall. I admit I wouldn't mind going on some of them. lol. Mainly, due to the fact that I don't see the bf very often due to school. But, then I calmly explain to them. That, yes I am still seeing someone and that I wouldn't mind going out as friends, but right now thats all I can offer.

So there you have it. NOW, I 'm in complete confusion and have been for over 2 weeks now. I have severe doubts about my relationship, but still have that need to be with him and I feel scared to just let go.

I'm confused. Someone end my misery!!

[Joe_Watson]

All these people are asking you out and you're complaining? You should be flattered that so many people find you attractive. If you have severe doubts about your relationship, why are you still with him? You said you "stupidly" got back together with him. Are you sure getting back together with him is really what you want to do? Think about it. You also say you are "sort of" back together. Well, either you are back together or you're not. You must make up your mind. Either you lose him and go out with some of these new people or repair your relationship with him and remove these "doubts". Right now it sounds like you just need to make up your mind whether to stay or go. You have to decide that before you can decide anything else.

Hope this helps
Happy Thanksgiving (probably it's a different day in Canada but whatever)

[Fawn]

you'd understand a bit more if you read my other thread before...

i was confused about our relationship. We were together, but in my head it didn't really feel like it because i wasn't placing my whole heart in it. I wanted to, but I couldn't.

Tonight, we had a long talk ... and we've decided to go on a break for a few weeks... I don't know how this is going to end... but I will always love him either way...

[Jenrick285]

What is it that YOU want?
If its to be with him, then you already know that discussion so I won't rehash. But I think it'll come to a point where you are going to come to a crossroad on this topic.

I think its a step in the right direction in having your own friends that have nothing to do with him or the relationship. It's actually healthy and its also these people that you can go to that willl support and stand by you for whatever the situation.

It all boils down to what is it you want. What is it you are able/willing to do.
Don't rush yourself, even God took seven days to make the world; there's rarely a answer to these things that come to you overnight, just lots of bruises and learning

Hope it helps.

[King Zarathu]

I agree 100% with what Joe_Watson said. Joe you're canadian? yeah well **** YOU.

sorry-- (heheh)

anyways, what I think you should do most, is do what a wizard sense would do. VERY calmly, sit ur ass on a fat-daddy mutha****in' sofa and think:

i'm sure you HATE math, so we're gonna put it in math terms for ya.

X = What you want
Y = What you to do achieve X
Z = Desired long-term outcome.

Y - X = Z

get it? ok? ok!

although, you should seriously take time and go for what you want instead of trying to please everybody and being a confused victim. I don't believe in dating the same person twice, so if it were up to me i'd go up to him and flick him off "SHOVE THAT UP UR ASS BITCH!" but yeah. i'm serious--you should tell him that you prefer just being friends.

[Fawn]

although, you should seriously take time and go for what you want instead of trying to please everybody and being a confused victim.

Out of that whole speach, I believe thats the line that was truly important.

The fact of the matter is that I've become so confused over the situation nothing seems to make sense to me anymore. I feel as if I've lost that ability to determine whats right and wrong in the situation. To all of you, it seems so simple. But, to me, its very complicated. This is important to me and very serious.

So, now were on this Break. Then, this morning, he writes me an email saying that he was not thinking last night and he feels bad about the whole situation. He wants to forget about the whole break thing. I'm not sure what to do. I love him and want to be with him, but there are still alot of factors that I'm not sure I can handle. I really need to talk with him about some things.