Originally Posted by
SelflessnHumble
girl68 is right on the money.
You've got issues with letting go someone who never truly knew you nor liked you.
(1) You go to a ball with your frat brothers...and bring a girl "YOU DON'T KNOW THAT WELL"
(2) Your story telling skills suck because a ball usually doesn't last more than one night, so let's retell the story...
(1) You want to take a girl to a ball you and your frat brother will be attending...So...
(2) You two meet up (the night before) you drank and she was all over you...
(3) At the formal things were awkward...WHY were they awkward???
Oh, that's right: "I wasn't feeling too well, and wasn't outgoing and not in a good mood..." K.
(she is supposed to be all over you: a grumpy snoozefest???) This isn't attractive at all. HUGE turn off...
What relevancy is the fact she got drunk around people she didn't know?
I mean how could she be embarrassed about it?
Any other guy would have just grabbed her hand, and told her, "hey, are you all right? You seem pretty hammered drunk..."
When you address it, she can fee more comfortable talking about it, but alas...you were grumped out of your mind, so why should she?
How is it possible to drink, dance with other people during a trip? (this is what you said and makes zero sense)
If you mean she did those things with other people "she didn't know" another night, this means she wanted to have fun, and it wasn't with you.
THIS means she wasn't at all interested with you...Women can kiss a guy they don't even care about because it's "in the moment."
You asked a question: you've been given the answer...
In a nice calm voice, sit down with her (too late now lol) and say, "Hey, When we first met up and hung out I really enjoyed the time we spent.."
"We were kissing, laughing and had a great time." Then say, "why did the vibe change from one night to the next?"
Then be patient and wait for her answer, let her finish, don't whine.
Then tell her, "I wasn't my self as I was previously...I didn't think to mention I was feelings sick because I didn't want
to ruin your good time at the ball..." Then, "I'm truly sorry for that.." and then follow up with, "I'd like to take you out for coffee" or
something she likes...If yes, cool...If not, don't whine, ask more questions, just politely say, "ok, well, I've gotta go, take care" and leave.
The thing is you should have explained this THERE.
It's too late now, hence she's ignoring you because she thinks you are a putz!
Listen to girl68, she's a girl! You messed up, try again with someone else and don't fiddle with your thumbs wondering what to say!