Originally Posted by
Emerald_Dreams
It seems to be a trend around here to accuse men of being "controlling", "insecure", etc. I don't think that's the case here and I don't think you're trying to make yourself sound perfect OP - quite the opposite: If you were perfect you wouldn't need help, right?
At any rate it seems the problem was you were being too nice, and a little suffocating and clingy. Women like men who are nice, but not too nice. Women want devotion, but not too much devotion. They like a man who's confident, independent, has his own life and interests, presents a challenge, etc. From your post it doesn't sound like you're doing any of those things. From the sound of your post it seems as if all you're doing is focusing all your attention on doing nice things for her. There is a such thing as too much love - after a while it becomes suffocating.
I don't think the problem is "control". But I think you need to step back and give her some space to breath. Obviously you've smothered her with your love, and it's snuffed the life out of your relationship. As far as resparking things, I'm not sure. If you give her some space and live your own life, maybe she'll come around, but if not you'll just have to accept it and move on.
Absense makes the heart grow fonder and i agree with you to much romance wow never heard of that before
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