A bit of advice...

[schueys_girl]

Hi guys im new here so hello
Right just need a bit of advice this isnt really on the subject of dumping...but it does relate to it
Basically february this year my bf of around 9 months finished with me. It was hard cos we had been friends for a couple of years before. Anyway i bowed out gracefully and got on with my life and let him get on with his etc. Anyway around end of June he got back in touch, as some of his friends were my mates too and we started hanging out in a group again, going cinema and the pub etc and it was good and i purely saw him as a friend because from knowing him before he did not chase after girls or get back with them after breaking up with them. Anyway I had another bf by then. After about a month of seeing my ex and his mates and just being friends he took me out for a drink one night and no one else was there and he confessed that he still loved me and regretted everything and should never have let me go. I was shocked and after a lot of consideration i decided to try again with him as the 9 months were really good.

Anyway... 3 months into it he is the perfect boyfriend, very loving and treats me so well...i am just being so stupid because I am so scared he will just finish with me again like he did before and i really dont wanna be that hurt again. He reassures me all the time he wont and i really dont think there is anything more that he can do for me at all it is just completely my problem and i think confidence in myself. I really wanna get over this and be able to enjoy my life but sometimes i just have these nagging doubts that he will leave me and i can get quite upset.
Please help with some advice as to how i can just MOVE on and forget before! thanks guys

much love xxxx

[Rach]

Hmm, well as none of us really know your guy it can be hard to give you advice. But, if he's the trustworthy type, and he says he reallly did regret what he did and does indeed still love you, why not believe him? BUT, if there's any doubt in your mind he may not be telling you the full truth, then you should be kind of weary about falling in totally head over heals again, if you already haven't.

Hmm...I don' think I was much help on this, I'm sorry. It's kind of hard not really knowing the guy you're dealing with. But if you love him, and you're sure he loves you too, why not give it another chance and put the past behind you?

[turbomx3]

learn from the past don't allow it to affect your future! Just don't give to much to soon ie your soul & spirit but try not to be too stand offish! I would assume he is probably a bit worried that you may leave him! There's no guarantee's in love so you gotta either take a chance and enjoy what you have. My bro said to me there's about 10 different voices in your head giving bad advice and only 1 which gives the good advice your listening to the bad advice at the moment. Just try and chill i'm sure if he likes you he'll understand that you are a bit worried. Don't worry though what your feeling is natural!

[schueys_girl]

Thanks guys what you have said is helpful and I know that I cant just worry constantly about what happened in the past as it will ruin the present and any possible future I may have with him. I think i just need some self confidence thats all Thanks for your replies, il try and help you all in the future xxxx