Hi, everyone:

Thanks in advance for your thoughts.

I met a guy last weekend at an event, a bit older than I am (I'm in my mid 30s, he's 41). From my perspective we really hit it off, with a tonne to talk about and a lot in common. It ended up that I gave him a ride home afterward (he had come with a friend who left early) and after a great conversation (we talked about our views on dating, which aligned well, and all sorts of surprisingly personal stuff), he said to me on being dropped off that of all the great things he saw this weekend, he'd have to say the nicest was meeting me (I smiled and said, "likewise"). And then he said that we'd see each other again, "and soon!".

Needless to say I took that as a positive sign, but didn't hear anything through the week. I finally decided to bite the bullet, since I couldn't get him off my mind, and send a quick email just suggesting coffee or a drink some time. Email, btw, was the choice as I don't have anything but his work number and email had been our medium of communication previously, too, so it seemed innocuous enough. I chose my words carefully so as not to come on strong, and closed the email saying that I know he's busy with work, so if it didn't work out right now, no worries; hoped to leave him with an easy way out, if need be. Anyhow, that was Friday and I haven't heard anything in reply.

It's strange-- I felt such an immediate connection with this person that I can't tell you how disappointed I am if he decides not to follow up. I just can't shake him from my mind (this is incredibly uncharacteristic of me, let me tell you). I'm certainly not itching to date someone-- I'm really happy in my life right now. But I would like to get to know him better; he's the sort for whom I might just change my mind (and fellows like this are rare)... at least, I'd sure like to get to know him better.

Anyway, guys... should I just take this for the sign that it probably is, namely that I either misread his level of interest, or he's changed his mind? I won't follow up with him again as I don't want to be a nuisance, and I respect his space. But, well... what a bummer. I've not found myself so compelled by a person before! I'd just really like to have a chance to see him again. Even if it is only a coffee and it turns out it's not a going to go further. Well, seems it's probably out of my control now, anyway.


Thanks for your thoughts.

-otamot