Being led on?

[Kit90]

Hi guys, I was wondering if you could give me an opinion on this situtation.

A few weeks ago i met this girl, and thought she was really nice. she was telling all my friends that she really really likes me.

since then i have seen her a few times, and spoken to her for a few hours almost every day.

me and all of my friends went out on friday night and she was there too. once again she was saying to people how much she likes me and she was flirting with me pretty much most of the night. me and one of my friends went to the shop for a little while and apparently she kept asking my friends where i was, even to the point that she was getting my mates to text me asking where i was.

once we had got back to the bar, my friend said to her (on my accord) "he really likes you you know". her reply was "yes i know, but i'm seeing someone else"

obviously my friend was going to tell me her answer, and we had a chat about it outside. by this time i was pretty upset, and this was made worse by her coming outside 5 minutes later flirting with me again.

i walked away quite upset and she was asking all my friends what was the matter with me.

yesterday my friend was speaking to her and she said she's been playing off the attention she's been getting since she's been single.

i don't get what's happening

[jv1189]

Shes flirting, but in a "playing the field" kind of way. walk away, have a quick fling, or if you want to just hook up- because this girl isn't serious and she doesn't seem to be looking for anything long term. don't waste your time

[carl1222]

I smell a rat here. Who is this "friend" who supposedly has your back?

Also, if you are talking with her for hours every day ... why not just ask her straight up if she has a boyfriend or is dating someone else? That isn't prying ... it's something you need to know because she is giving you mixed signals.

Carl.

[Kit90]

well about 4 of my friends have independently told me that she likes me, so i doubt they can all be lying.

i have asked her, and she said she wasn't seeing anyone. i haven't spoken to her since that night, i'm not sure if i should wait til she speaks to me first

[MerryH]

well about 4 of my friends have independently told me that she likes me, so i doubt they can all be lying.

Don't listen to gossip. It's like that telephone game, what was actually said can be misconstrued after being passed on to others. I can see it going like this: "Hey Girl, do you like Kit?" Girl replies, "Yeah, Kit's a really great friend!" Friends tell you, "Kit, Girl really likes you!"

It's time to man up and ask her out on a date. You've gotten to know each other, you clearly like her and want to date her, so make it happen. At least then you'll know where you stand.

[carl1222]

well about 4 of my friends have independently told me that she likes me, so i doubt they can all be lying.

i have asked her, and she said she wasn't seeing anyone. i haven't spoken to her since that night, i'm not sure if i should wait til she speaks to me first

I don't mean the 4 friends who told you she likes you, i believe them ... I mean the ONE friend who told you she is playing you! It just doesn't make any sense to me. If she had just told your "friend" that she knew you liked her but she was seeing someone else, why would she not know why you were upset? If she already told you she wasn't seeing anyone (but secretly was) then why would she be so stupid as to admit it to your friend, knowing for sure she would be caught in a lie?

I would talk with her, tell her exactly what happened and hear her side of it. Remember ... if your friend is just making s**t up to cause trouble, then she really may have no clue what went wrong!

Carl.