Valentines day gift idea...

[lebeau]

Ok so here's the thing. I really like this girl, however i can't just go and tell her my feelings right now and give her a huge surprise on valentines day. Why? Well the situation is very messed up at the moment, she's going through a rough time with her parents, she's currently dealing with a best friend who became very weird and sort of stalker-ish because he's in love with her, and besides all that there's like two more guys who are in her friends circle that also like her. So basically showing her my feelings right now will mess everything up more, right now im more of a relief of all those problems and a support whenever im around. Last friday I took her to dinner and altough nothing happend(I didnt make a move, just tried to show her we can have a great time together) and everything was perfect, i think it was perfect for both. So for Valentine's day i want to give her something that tells her where I stand, but nothing too big that can mess it up. So that means no bunch of flowers or romantic stuff. I'm already giving her some dvd's with a compilation of her favorite romantic movies but that has nothing to do with it. So here i am asking for advice, whats a good valentines gift that can say im here and i like you, but im not forcing anything at the moment?
Thanks for any help.

[sadie_genie]

A single rose?

[carl1222]

I want you to go to the card store, and find a Valentine's Day card that you would give to just a friend. Then I want you to read the sentiments inside so you can clearly see that you are in no way satisfied with the role you have taken in her life. Seriously, dude ... you have put yourself so firmly in her friend-zone that it will be very difficult (if not impossible) to turn this around.

Ask yourself ... why are you so undeserving that you should have to wait fourth in line behind the "stalker" and the other two guys who like her too? A DVD and movie compilation? Are you looking to be her boyfriend, or to sell her a subscription to Netflix?

Let her know your feelings (on any day OTHER than V'day!) Be prepared, however, for her likely response: "I see us as only friends". If so, drop it ... don't become stalker #2.

By the way, your current friendship will never work for you because you want so much more, so be prepared to give that up too.

If you are foolish enough to want to perpetuate your situation, here are a few Valentine's Day gifts: 1) offer to rotate her tires, or 2) offer to paint her kitchen. Better yet ... offer to watch her dog when she goes out on her next date.

Sorry for the sarcasm, but you need to be made to appreciate the hole you[ve dug for yourself, and the futility of trying to protect a friendship you don't want. All or nothing are the only options that work. Anything in between is doomed to heartache and failure!

Carl.

[happagirl]

I think that it is nice that you are being so sensitive to the whole matter.

My advice, Love, is to not make a huge thing about Valentine's Day.
Valentine's Day often carries with it baggage for girls- maybe it causes her to think a lot about her ex or about her parents relationship (if it was poor, with mourning, and if it was great, with longing).
Some girls see Valentine's Day as coming with a bunch of commercial hype- and others make pacts with other single girlfriends about not participating in Valentine's Day festivities and celebrating singlehood.

The way that you feel about this girl isn't going to change because it's Valentines Day or a week after Valentine's Day.
If I were you, I would wait for a time that isn't so sensitive to let her know where you stand.

In a week or so when things are a little less hyped up, maybe take her to dinner.
My current boyfriend let me know where his feelings stood when he invited me over, made me dinner and took me to the symphony (Something that he knows that I love, despite the fact that he wasn't a huge fan).
It doesn't have to be that elaborate, though.
Just be yourself and be thoughtful- that should convey what you feel.
Best of luck!