I need Advice, my boyfriend is leaving to another country

[iwanttoloveya]

Hi everyone, I am so lost in my relationship I don't know what to do?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half, both expats living in china. We started dating while both working in the same office, I eventually left the company because the presure got too big. When we first started dating everything went ok apart from my boyfriends immaturity and not being stable, which got better in time. Up untill one day the company dcided to send him to the other side of the world to do some market research, to eventually start up an office over there.

He left for two months that summer and things were pretty rough between us. Long distance is a no go, however we still kept on with the relationship, me being in CHina and him being in Mexico, it was only two monts after all before his return. I have trust issues with men due to my past, which made the relation even trickier. On his return things slowly got back to normal but then the company said they are willing to set up an office over there if his sales numbers were high enough.

He has been working like a mad one and is trying really hard to achieve that goal. I have been feeling tremendously sad about this situation because I dont want to move to Mexico. In the mean time I see him working really hard for something I dont want. I understand him, aI know he is ambitious nd know that his career is important to him but what about me? he has never really asked me to come with him, because he knows what I think. Our relationship has had its ups and downs hence why he is not sure if he wants me to move with him, and I dont know if I want to either? Time is appraoching that he might leave and chances are big that he does cos he doesnt want to stay in china. WHat do I do? this is killing me and I really have feelings for him but it seems that he choses his carreer above me....which I cannot hold against him.

I know he cares about me but maybe not enough to stay. He says that this is all he has now and want to take his chance but cant you make a career whereever you are? This whole situation has been going on for one year now and its making me sad. I feel lonely, lost, empty and desperate for help.

Can anyone give me some advice on this??? should I keep going on with this relation up until he leaves? should I break up? should I leave my career and move with him whith no guarantee? thank you soo much for reading this, your advice would mean a lot to me...I really appreciate...

[smackie9]

Your first reaction is to hang on for dear life and let this guy drag you around following his dream. This the reality, all he cares about is his dream and not you, that is where his priorities are. You know it and I know it and anyone who reads this knows it. The only logical thing to do is to break up with him and find yourself a less career driven man. If you stay with him you are only prolonging the inevitable.