Why do guys watch porn?

[tennissqueaker3]

heartisaching - I'd like to hear it.

[VincenzoG91]

Other mysteries about men:

Why do we drink beer? Why do we like to watch sports? Why do we like to eat beef jerky?

[vashti]

If it really bothers you, he won't change his behavior, & you still want to be with him, why don't you make your own porn for him? Take racy pics of yourself or even videos & send them to him? So instead of getting off on porn, he'd be getting off with more thoughts of you.

Don't do this. It never ends well, to be putting compromising pictures of yourself out in the world. The is a HUGE risk of being sorry later.

[HeartIsAching]

I knew he watched porn in the past and it was always really really upsetting for me, we actually briefly broke up because of it,

This is your issue, not his. It was an issue you were aware of, and tried to change through coercion.

but I just found so much porn on his computer.

You were snooping on his computer. This is a form of abuse called Isolation. It's controlling behavior.

he was watching while I wasI was sleeping.

So what's the issue? He's not throwing it in your face, not doing it in front of you.

its so upsetting to me. we have a great sex life, we have plenty of sex, I give him blowjobs or whatever he wants whenever he wants and I dont understand why he still watches porn.

Again, your issue. You have problems with it due to your insecurity. You're jealous of porn ferchrissakes. It's not about you. It's not about your sex life.

at this point I dont want him to touch me I dont want to have sex with him or do anything.

And this is you trying to use your vagina as a weapon. Be forewarned, this is almost certain to backfire on you. If you do it in your relationship, don't get all butt-hurt when he finds somewhere else to get some. I'm not saying it's right, but it's how a lot of men justify cheating.

I don't know how to bring this up to him because i don't want to fight and he always gets mad when I bring it up.

You should never fight. Discuss yes... if you're fighting, you're doing it wrong.

I'm just so hurt and I don't know how to go on with this relationship normally.

Then don't. Attempting to change him to suit you is flatly wrong. If you can't deal with it, and he won't change it voluntarily, then break up with him and be done with it.

[cecilia]

Don't do this. It never ends well, to be putting compromising pictures of yourself out in the world. The is a HUGE risk of being sorry later.

Well I guess it works if you're with a genuine guy. I don't know- never did it with a guy I didn't love so I wouldn't know what could happen.

[HeartIsAching]

but cant there be some compromise? men like porn. okay, so that's how men are. I HATE it. that's how I am. I've tried to deal with it and understand it and it really upsets me. so cant there be a compromise?

One more thing:

How is this a compromise? He wants to, you don't want him to, so you expect him to conform to your wishes. By your own admission, he's not doing it in front of you. That's a reasonable compromise.

[eonbar]

if it makes you feel any better whenever i've watched porn its only for the visualization. im constantly thinking about the person i only really care about ... my gf ... and just envisioning me and her, not me and some slutty bimbo on the internet...

[xxazurexx]

Other mysteries about men:

Why do we drink beer? Why do we like to watch sports? Why do we like to eat beef jerky?

You forgot the toilet seat and why you leave it up??

[xxazurexx]

Well I guess it works if you're with a genuine guy. I don't know- never did it with a guy I didn't love so I wouldn't know what could happen.

And you are insinuating Vash did??? *shock horror*

It can happen and no matter which guy you are involved with...'genuine' or not.

And no I'm not talking through experience....I'm a 'lady'

[VincenzoG91]

You forgot the toilet seat and why you leave it up??

Beer, sports, beef jerky and porn are all things that guys enjoy. Leaving the toilet seat up is more along the lines of things that we don't really think about much.

[vashti]

Well I guess it works if you're with a genuine guy. I don't know- never did it with a guy I didn't love so I wouldn't know what could happen.

Don't you read? Even celebrities have their pictures outed at inopportune times.

And BTW - I have never been stupid enough - nor needy enough for attention - to put myself at risk this way.

[doppelgaenger]

Because we like to see naked ladies.

[the_robot]

Porn bores me, honestly.

You forgot the toilet seat and why you leave it up??

You know, you can program a guy to leave it down. My sisters did pretty much that with me when I was a kid haha.

[the_robot]

Beer, sports, beef jerky and porn are all things that guys enjoy. Leaving the toilet seat up is more along the lines of things that we don't really think about much.

Not all guys like those. Generalizations are bad (not directed to you, just everyone).

[HeartIsAching]

You forgot the toilet seat and why you leave it up??

Or more importantly, why don't women know how to operate the toilet seat?