ok so heres my deal that has caused me so much pain it is unthinkable.
So I am 28 and she is 20.
we have been together for just about 2 years.
I am currently in the army and i cannot see her whenever i please that is until july when i finish.
We would talk on the phone though about 3 times a day for a good amount of time.
However 3 days before my bday feb 11, she said that she feels pressured and that we need a break.I know that she is 20 and saying to many i love yous and i miss yous are somewhat stressful but thats how i felt. I asked her if this was her way to tell me that we are breaking up and she said that is the least that i would like. It is hard being away and this is the most crucial time in my life and having that having that happening is ridiculous.
I was shocked and this was hard so i decided to respect her decision as there is nothing i can do from here until march where i get 20 days off and head home.
My birthday came and she did not even call she just sent a simple text "happy birthday". I was crushed and called immidiately to demand an explanation on how she can do that after 2 years of having an excellent time together.
She said that we are on break and that at least i did not forget.
Anyway i scratched that off and we continued not to talk. Some hello messages on facebook and how are you doing made me think that she actually cared.
We talked on the phone the other day and i asked how she was and she would say in a fun tone...GOOD amazing etc.
Im like do you even care? She did not answer.
The following day we talked on facebook a bit and my father has been in a crisis in the hospital with 2 surgerys.
Its hard not being able to be there for the people you care the most but i kept composure.
I asked her again why are we not talking on the phone and she said we just need a break.
Im like ok, simply because i am far away and cannot understand what she is thinking /what is on her mind.
So after that the next day, she untags herself from our pictures together on facebook and removes the "father/daughter" status of us on facebook for some reason.
We talked again and i ask her what is going on se said "nothing" then in a weird manner implied that we should break up.
She knows i am coming in march as we discussed when i would get my time off, and she insisted that i would get it in march (our anniversary) so we can spend it together so i had planned everything and paid for everything in advance; hotels and spas and stuff like that that she enjoys. i could have been home on my birthday but she insisted in march for our anniversary.
So after the breakup i asked that we talk on the phone because its downright stupid to do that on facebook and ask for an explanation.
I asked why would we break up and told that i do not understand whats going on especially from here. I do have feelings and i do love her and she knows it. She knows thatis nothing i wouldnt do for her and i have proved this so many times in the past.
Her answer to why are we breaking up is..........drumroll........."because"
i asked this twice with the same answer.
I got a because to a breakup reason.
Again crushed i told her that that is not fair and she replied again that there is nothing she can do.
I dont know what to do. she always was mature asbout things even though she is young and perhaps not lived life as I have.
this girl was so into me and told me this every day.
Now i get this.
Help. I love this girl with my all but i dont know what to do
im freaking out.
what can i do to get her back?
She completes me.
thanks in advance