Usually when the OP gets very angry: it means what I said hit home. Stings doesn't it?
You want points because prior to this you were a good boy?
The fact is: No one judged you (look the word up)
What did I do? Posted my observation of what you did.
Did you ask for advice?
Or did you want everyone to coddle you?
I don't need to know a murderer if he chooses to pull the trigger, do I?
Likewise I don't need to get to know you: when you stepped over the line without hesitation.
It tells me you don't deserve your girlfriend and hopefully she wises up and realizes what you did: is (usually a sign) indicative of what is to come.
You think relationships get easier as time goes on?
Of course I'm not perfect.
But when I cheated (many many many times) I did the same thing you did. Get all butthurt and out of control because your defense tells me you're refusing to see what you have done:
and what IT has done to your girlfriend I can only assume you love (since you only mentioned the fact she "really" loves you) <----------Zero mention of your love for her! (telling, isn't it?)
Moving forward I took responsibility for my actions and owned up to it.
If I had cheated on my girl, then come here for advice: I deserve (within reason) about what would be said about a man's character that willingly chooses to SHIT on his relationship with his woman.
Judge=a finalized conclusion.
Observation=basing an informed opinion about YOUR behavior as to what you had done... (meaning it can be changed) based on you (hopefully) realizing how wrong you were.
Next time with the next girl: be a man and tell your woman the truth you don't want to be with her in a committed relationship.
Then you can go from gal to gal without having to deal with a hurt girlfriend.