Need some advice

[Rit]

Firstly, thanks for reading this.
Quite some time ago, I started to talk to this female classmate of mine because we both love the same type of music. It was a few months ago and I did not have any feeling for her until recently. We don't really talk a lot in class because we are sitting too far away from each other. We talk a lot online though. She's quite comfortable when she's me i guess.
I started liking her lately. I tried asking her out for movie a few days ago but i failed. Honestly, I don't think i asked her. When i was talking to her over facebook chat, I asked her whether she watched XXX movie. She replied by saying she's going to watch it with her family and so i decided not to ask her further. Yesterday, I texted her and wanted to try to ask her out again. I asked her whether she will be free on this coming Saturday. She replied " Don't think so. Why?". Upon receiving the message, i freaked out. I quickly told her that there will be an outing on that day and the conversation stopped there.
I think she's not interested in me. =C
Usually I'm a shy person and that took me a lot of courage to ask her out.
Should I try again or should i give up? Is she like not interested in me?? What should i do next?

[Bonfire]

At first I thought you asked her if she watches porn (XXX movies). LOL And her response was even funnier, she will watch it with her family. I get it now. XXX means some random title of movie. Well, you have nothing to lose, just ask her out next time. If she rejects you then at least you know for sure she's not interested and you could move on and find another girl.

[Rit]

Hahaha sorry about that. So when is the right time to ask her out again? And is texting a bad way to ask a girl out? Should i start hinting her by giving her flowers during our date(if it works out)? Whats the best way to ask her out without sounding too desperate? I have no experience at dating a girl.

[Bonfire]

Ask her out the next time you chat with her either in person or on facebook. You could ask her to go have dinner at some favorite places of yours or to a movie you like to see. Just say "I'm planning to go xxx, would you like to come?". Don't bother with flowers. Flowers are for your girlfriend, your mom, or someone who is either sick in hospital or dead. So no gifts until you two are officially a couple. Since you are inexperience, don't get discourage when you get rejections. We all got rejected before so that's normal and don't take it to heart. Don't be discourage to ask another girl out.

[Rit]

I guess you're right about the flower. Thanks for the advice. I think i know what to do now.

[devonbrown]

I agree about the flowers. And don't ask her out over a text message or online. Talk to her. Be honest. Let her know that you think it would be cool to hang out with her and see if she wants to grab dinner or something. Don't make it into a huge deal and she will be less likely to be freaked out by overeagerness.

I understand you being shy, but you already talk to this girl and know her. Trust in yourself and just be honest with her. That is always the best way.

Good luck!

[Rit]

I understand that it is more sincere to ask her out directly but i can hardly have chance to talk to her in class. Besides, she's with her friends all the time. I don't think i will have enough courage to go straight up and ask her out. Well, i know i can invite her through phone but I've never tried calling her before. It will be very awkward and she might think that I'm too desperate?

[Rit]

Someone please shed some light.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Call her up and ask if she wants to get together to do...

If she says no, she says no. Pretend she died, cross her off the list, and go after the next one.

[devonbrown]

lol. I am not sure I would pretend she died, but I agree that if she says no, she says no. It is what it is.

Why don't you text her and say something like, "Hey, my fingers are getting tired typing on this little keyboard. Do you mind if we talk on the phone for a while instead?" That makes it casual and gets you onto the phone with her where you can ask her out. If she doesn't want to get on the phone, there may be more going on with her behind the scenes than you know about, and thus you know to proceed with more caution.

Good luck.

[Rit]

Thanks guys.