No Sex. Depressed.

[awkward]

My girlfriend and I have been together a year (both in our twenties). I have also quit seeing porn for that long.

From the beginning she always insisted she'd only have sex after marriage. I was fine with that because I thought rubbing and oral didn't count (and it didn't, at least for the past year). I haven't been able to give her an orgasm for the whole time either, however.

The last few times we were together, she almost reached orgasm. Just when she's about to get it, she would stop. Then she would tell me how she feels an orgasm feels wrong - like the same kind of wrong as having sex before marriage.... Now she doesn't want to have any sexual activity at all besides holding hands and kissing, (but not even french kisses)....

Now that she's like this I just feel depressed. I don't watch porn because she's my girlfriend but she wouldn't let me do any of that stuff either. : (

Now I've started to google stuff like "should I watch porn".... grahhh

[JadenMia]

If you need to watch porn.. Go ahead and watch it. Your not getting sex so its just normal to want to 'get off' somewhere else. At least your not looking for other women..

Have you sat down and spoken to her about how you feel? How does she react? Does she meet your needs as much as you meet hers?

If the whole 'no sex before marriage' doesnt suit you, you need to go find something/someone that does suit you.

[xxazurexx]

Find a woman who wants what you do, is your best bet.

[HeartIsAching]

^^Bingo. Frankly I'd never marry a woman I didn't have sex with first. What if you discovered on your wedding night that you were totally incompatible?

[JadenMia]

^^Bingo. Frankly I'd never marry a woman I didn't have sex with first. What if you discovered on your wedding night that you were totally incompatible?

Exactly! Have to take the car for a test drive before you buy!

Wouldnt that be horrible!! Just getting married and finding out you were totallly incompatible in the sack.. Wow would that suck. lol

[xxazurexx]

^Too true. I wanna know what I'm getting, before I buy it. Men are no exception....

[Ric]

A good relationship is more than just connecting on an emotional and friendship level, you need to connect on a sexual level as well.
In a good relationship you need to match up in all these areas that matter to you. If there are parts missing, you'll never feel complete and happy.