long distance

[anonymoususer]

Hello guys,
I’m in this situation, and I’m kind of lost in it. I live in Belgium and my boyfriend lives in Sweden now. It’s hard to be away from him, but can anybody tell me if this is smart of me doing this? We are really in love, and we promised we will wait for each other forever. And I will wait forever, I can’t seem to get my mind of this guy. He really agree with me on everything and we seem soulmate’s. he tells me I love you every single day and he respects me like no one ever did. I feel so safe with him and if I lose him I have the feeling I will never love again. It’s like he is the one for me.
Do you guys have any tips for me, about how to stick it out till we can be each other again ? I really want to be with my baby.
Thankyou =)

[VincenzoG91]

Which one of you is moving? When is the move?

[anonymoususer]

he moved to sweden, and it aldready happend,
i think its the best decision to try and keep this on i dont know.
what should i do? i love him to much to just give up like that

[devonbrown]

I don't have any advice to help a long distance relationship last, but I will say this as a word of caution / something to remember during the distance. Distance doesn't kill relationships. What it does do is act as a magnifying glass. So, every word will be heard with greater consequence, every doubt will become mortal fear in your head, every argument will be blown out of proportion. But also, every time you hear words like "I love you" you will hear them with more clarity than before. Distance can help you two grow stronger. It can also make you realize your mistakes. Just keep that in mind.

Good luck.

[devonbrown]

Oh... One other thing to remember - try not to have the long distance be an indefinite thing. Plan times to see each other, use technology like Skype to feel close to each other, and discuss a plan where you two can move the relationship from long distance back to close.

Good luck.

[anonymoususer]

you are absolutly right!
every little thing that happens seems to blow out context!
and i have those fears in my head every time. but he tells me everytime it will be ok
i trust him but i stays hard, ur right distance does make u stronger!

thank you

[anonymoususer]

yea we do use skype and he try to talk and text everytime,
but i have one more quest.
i feel like i'm interupting him when i text him often
is this just an other doubt created by fear?

[dentiah]

The only way a long distance relationship can work out is only when
there is effective communication. Try to communicate a lot and also try not
offend each other because it'll be very difficult to let go. I dont think
you interrupting him with the skype and texting, am sure he'll tell you if
u do.