I've been married for almost nine years. We have four children. We both just recently lost a lot of weight and are looking the best we've looked since we were married. I am the only one in the relationship that instigates sex. I want it frequently throughout the week and I really want my husband to instigate. I decided I would tell him, then not instigate until he chose too. I told him how I felt over a week ago and he still hasn't instigated. Am I expecting too much? Too often?
I take care of mself and try to look and smell nice for him, but he doesn't seem attracted. What else should I do?