Hi there, I am new to this site...I am reaching out for support thru a break up that just happened to me. I have been married for 20 years, to a very abusive man, this October we have decided to get divorced...we decided to hold off till after the new year so our kids would have a nice thanks giving and christmas. during november i received a facebook message from my first love Joe, he was the "one that got away" kind of thing. we dated thru middle and high school...so it was that sweet innocent first love kind of thing. so i thought....we started communicating thru facebook, which then led to talking on the phone and then we decided to meet in person. the first night we saw each other we both told each other that night we still had feelings for each other. he is divorced and I am getting ready to go thru one..so yes I am still married on paper so I guess you can say that I cheated on my husband. Joe and I feel back in love. we fell hard and fast for each other, he said he wanted to get married, that I was the love of his life too, that he never got over me etc...we started making plans for us to be together etc...he said all the right things and I fell for it. Me and my husband are now living apart and I was so excited to really be able to give myself fully to Joe...until he dumped me thru a text message, he refused to see or speak to me, he was cruel and hateful and accused me of deleting some valuable photos from his camera and that I was going thru his personal things...all of which were not true, but the fact that he refused to see or talk to me and he told me thru a text that he threw away all of my belongings and gifts that I gave to him in the dumpster. the same day he broke up with me, he posted on his facebook that he was still in love with his ex-girlfriend that I was a big mistake and he wants his ex back...I felt like I was punched in the stomach. I am so hurt and confused...how can we be so in love one minute and then he took that all away with one text message and accused me of doing something that I did not do. its been a month since this happened, I have not talked or seen him, when he ended it I made sure to never contact him, his family or his friends, I completely walked away, I refrused to beg him to be with me and I was not going to act psycho over him. but that does not change the fact that I am still so hurt. I am in my office crying right now typing this and its been a month. shouldn't I feel better by now. why is it that a man can be soooo wrong for you and have the power to hurt and break your heart like he has mine. I miss him so much I can barely stand it. I need help and support from anyone who has been dumped, especially by texting. please share your stories with me.