My new rules for life

[DarkHelmet82]

1. Be impeccible with your word
2. Always do your best
3. Dont take anything personally
4. Dont make assumptions

Hope this helps everyone.. It is hard to do but it is definetly helping

[steviej]

Solid rules, it's good to have values. How are you coping?

[DarkHelmet82]

im doing alright.. Its just hard to swallow how much she turned out to be not a nice person. Im talking to a new girl, hopefully I dont compare my ex with her.

[steviej]

Glad to hear it! You've been through some sh1t due to your ex, you deserve some good luck for once.

[Love&Life]

Love it. But can you explain me 1 & 3? I hope it works out with the new one. I am thinking about dating again, not for the romance but for distraction.

[DarkHelmet82]

sure thing...

#1.. pretty much say what you mean... simple as that.. the power of a word is very strong. Dont say anything unless you have thought about it first, and actually mean what you are saying.

#3- dont take anything personally... when someone say or does something to you it is not because of YOU.. it is because of THEM. If you dont take it personally it wont bother you, and you will realize it is them with the issues not you.

[Love&Life]

#1 A biiiiiig fan of this...

#3 but what if it is positive? A flirtatious comment...?

[DarkHelmet82]

#3 - It meant taking things personal when they are negative comments.

[blv]

These are from the book the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Good book and a quicj read. I recommend it to anyone. It will give more detail on how and why to use them.

much love

[Enigmos]

I have this book. I've also used it to get through some pain, even now. My favorite agreement is "Don't Take Anything Personally," but it's important to remember that this agreement is to not take an insult or a compliment personally. The concept is that whatever is being said to you is not about you, but the person who is saying it. I think it's the most empowering agreement.

[DarkHelmet82]

yes they are.. i posted this on another topic....