i just dont understand this girl

[Peter95]

ok so this girl i dated for 3 years broke up with me about a month ago and still wants to be freinds about a week after the break up i didnt contact her for 4 days and she kept calling my phone and then i finnaly picked up and just explained to her i needed some time to get over things.

after that we started talking again and she instantly wanted to see me really badly, so i give it a few days then we hang out and she tells me she loves me and wants to get back together so i told her id take her back, and she said lets just wait a bit before we get back into it. so the next two days we go on a road trip and shes really happy and trys to get sexual with me in the car, asking me to pull over on the highway for sex. we didnt end up doing that because we were running low on time. but after i droped her off at home she called me over for a movie and she ended up falling asleep and i went home.

since then i havnt seen her in two weeks but we always talk, twice or more a day. but when i ask to hang out she always makes excuses. so i stoped asking and decided not to put any effort into it anymore. then she starts coming back and callling me over and over again. when i dont pick up she calls back and back and back. so i started to talk to her again and just be more a of a freidn than anything and i asked her to hang out (tryed my luck again) and she said ok tomorow. so tomorow comes around and she blows me off to go see her freinds and tells me to come over at night, so night time comes around and more excuses come. so i got a little frusterated. and i guess she felt bad cause next day she keepted calling and tring to contact me when i wasnt answer. and i didnt all day Then she goes to a party.

she gets drunk and calls me 25 TIMES!!! from 1 in the morning till 1pm the next day, every 5 - 30 mins! i asnwer at five in the morning and talk a little bit and then hung up and at the end she was waiting for me to tell her i love her but i didnt say it
so she calls me back 15 times the next day. and i pick up after the 14th time and its like she just wants to talk. then i hang up and no more calls. no more effort into it and i called her back 2 hrs later cause i was busy when i picked up the phone and ended the convo suddnely. so now when i talked to her she seemed not interested and acting boring.


whats going on in this girls head why is she one minute supper cliny and needy for me then the next, tottaly not interested at all.

[MerryH]

It's because instead of viewing you as a human being with feelings, she sees you as her plaything who should be at her disposal whenever she feels like it. I can say this with some certainty based mostly on her calling you over and over.

Stop letting her play with you. Cut contact.

[pisces25]

Agree she is just playing with you.. possibly she doesn't know how to be on her own after 3 years, she wants to have you there but not as a BF. Cut contact completely and move on.

[Peter95]

thats what i thought. and when i dont give her what she want (to talk to me when she wants and not when i want) she just keeps trying until she gets it (typical). but i dont want to cut contact completly because i still love the girl alot and i can tell she still loves me aswell shes just going through something in her life where she needs a change. and id rather have her as a close freind then nothing at all.

today we had sex for the first time since the break up and she told me she loved me in the middle of it and it was really passionate at times. went on for a bout an hour. after it was over she said can u **** me everday? can u come over after work tonight and we will **** again?

i dont know if i should be giving her this.

i just really dont want to turn into a slut and start putting herself out in the open for guys to grab ahold of. i want to get her back to be my girlfreind. and we had talked about how we have a strong relationship (with or without bf/gf) just in a best freind way and that we both see possibilites of us getting back together later down the road