Best thing to do in this situation?
So as a few of you know, i got out of a very abusive relationship a few weeks ago..Since then we have seen each other a few times.. But not for over 2 weeks now. So i feel like i have finally accepted that it is over and working hard on making sure i stay well away. I have been doing great with my progress.. Not so much emotions.. I have been having really bad days where i just cannot stop crying, but its getting better day by day and i feel it is an AWESOME lesson for me to learn.
But, it has come to the time where i want my stuff back from him. So i asked my girlfriend to stop by his place to get it.. He told her i cannot have any of my things back until i gave him whats rightfully his. By this he means..
This past christmas my father bought me a laptop. I was so happy as i am a single mother and have NO money for these kind of things.. Well, not even a week later my ex smashed it to pieces because he said it was a way of me fishing for other men.
I was devastated and left him.. A week later he begged me back and said he would buy me a new one.
I did, and he bought me the same laptop back.
A few weeks after he started saying i needed to give him some money for the laptop because it was equally my fault as i were talking to men over the internet.. (I wasnt, just friends over facebook) So i refused. I dont have the money to give him this! I work full time, have to pay rent, groceries, clothes and daycare for my daughter.. I just do not have the money to spare. So i said no, the most i could give was 100. Which i did.
What he has of mine are just clothes, jewellery.. Things i cant really afford to buy myself back but what i REALLY want back is my deceased grandmothers lifting weights.. She left a few things to me when she was gone and she meant so much to me.. The weights being one of them. I just dont know what to do, it sickens me to think he is there using her stuff..
He wants 400bucks for the laptop or he says i cannot get my stuff back. He has already called the cops on me trying to charge me with theft because obviously the laptops on his name..
UGH. I desperately cannot afford to give him the money.. But i feel so sad that id have to let my nanas weights go to him.. What would you do in this situation? I cannot wait to get him out of my life completely.. I just want this over with!!!
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