What do I do?

[harleynight]

I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months now. We work different shifts so we don't see each other often. Actually I haven't seen him since the week after Valentine's day. I know he has a lot on his mind and a lot going on, but sometimes I'm not sure what to think. I know he does care as I can tell from his comments, but how long am I suppose to go without seeing him? I know we have a weekend gate away planned for the long weekend of May but that is over a month away. I've told him numerous times that I miss him, but how can I get him to see me more often? What makes it difficult also is that I have 4 children ages 18, 17, 5 and 3, so to get alone time, is not always easy and I know he would like to spend more one on one time with me as he doesn't want to confuse my little ones since they don't see their dad often.

What do I do?

[smackie9]

It might be time to re-evaluate your relationship and where it stands. If your schedules cannot be changed then this what you get for a relationship. You are going to have to discuss this with him and see if any changes can be made...if not then you will have to make a decision whether to keep seeing each other. Since it's only been 6 months, it might be better to cut your loses and keep looking for someone that is more suitable to your lifestyle....like a family man that has time for you and to be part of your childrens lives.

[harleynight]

He is trying to change his schedule, but in order to do this, he needs to find a new job which he is trying to do with no luck yet. We have discussed this and he says he feels bad for not spending more time with me. He is an amazing person, treats me like a queen when we are together, just don't see each other often. My older two have seen him many times, but my 5 year old has met him once and they text each other all the time and my 3 year old has not met him at all. The reason being, is that the little ones don't see their dad often and he says he doesn't want to confuse them.

Thanks for the help.

[Boisdevie]

Having 4 kids will inevitably make your life harder - nobody forced you to have 4 kids so it's up to you to deal with the consequences.

[harleynight]

Wow, can we say harsh, who peed in your cereal this morning.....

[smackie9]

So if he doesn't want to confuse them, is he suggesting the relationship will not proceed any further than it is now?

[harleynight]

I think he means for now and they are young and very impressionable.

[smackie9]

Well take it one day at a time then......