A little background on me: I am recently divorced and just starting to date again. No kids. I've been out with a few different guys, and told them all upfront (it's even in my online profile) that I'm really not interested in commitments or serious relationships, I just want to go out, have fun, have a person to snuggle with, and . . . well . . . get laid (that last part isn't in my profile). Basically I want a couple of friends with benefits. I always thought it would be super easy to find guys who were ok with that . . . but it's proving a little harder than I thought.
So I have been on two dates with this guy who I met online. He is really nice to me, and paid me a lot of complements on my looks, which I am not used to. I'm a fairly attractive woman who puts effort into looking good, and yeah my self esteem is a little low, but I still think it's reasonably healthy, yet it was making me uncomfortable. Our first date went really well (after talking online for a couple of weeks), and we hooked up. I started feeling uncomfortable when he was stroking my face and gazing into my eyes, but I figured he said I was pretty, so maybe he was just looking?
Later he told me he thought I was out of his league. I think part of it may be that he says he recently lost a lot of weight, and probably still has self image issues because of it. On our second date he probably told me 4-5 times that he liked me. I wasn't sure what to say after the first two . . . I was getting the feeling his version of like is a lot stronger than mine. He's also starting to ask a lot more deep personal questions, which is heading more towards that relationship place, where I don't want to be.
I enjoy spending time with this guy. We have great conversations and lots of fun, but it freaks me out a little how much he seems to like me. Of course, I could also be totally overestimating things and maybe he's just expressive? That's what ties me up the most about talking to him about it. How do you tell a guy you think he likes you too much, when you could be totally wrong about it anyway? And how do you tell a guy it's making you uncomfortable?
What do you guys think? Are these red flags? I know I have an issue around intimacy right now, but I did put it out there that I'm not looking for that. Should I talk to this guy about it? What the heck should I say? I certainly don't want to continue seeing him if he's getting emotionally attached, since I'm not, and honestly unless he backs off a little on the intimacy, I'm not going to be having much fun. Wisdom? Advice?