We met almost two years ago, and got close pretty fast. We had great intellectual talks and a connection
I couldn't explain in words. To make a long story short we are now expecting our first child (coming soon),
and things have been very very rocky. I started discovering things I am not sure how to cope with. Infedility is among
them, but it seems like there is more to it than stupidity. From videos I found and the fact I learned that he constantly
seeks something on the side - almost always virtual and not physical, it seems that there are dark desires in his heart
that I couldn't possibly could or ever WANT to satisfy. I am beginning to feel appalled by him. I knew he had baggage,
but for the longest time I saw a good man in him, a kind heart and a lot of vulnerability. but I'm starting to think that
that perhaps I wasn't precieving right. I am seeing something dark and creepy about him, and I truly don't know how
to handle it. Lots of questions come to mind - am I exggarating? am I judgmental?...or am I right?
What do you when you begin to doubt what you know about someone, about their very core, the fundemental things
that make them who they are? How do you really ever know the person you're with? When is baggage too much baggage?
I should add that I know his parents and his father is aware of some of the things that are going on, and he has been
trying to encourage him to go to therapy but two things stand in the way of that - for one his parents live in a different
state and phone conversations are simply not as influential as face-to-face, and second he is after all a grown man and
one cannot be forced to make changes, an adult must want to change.
I'm not sure anyone can give me advice especially since what I'm saying is not very detailed, but perhaps
someone can provide some insight, at this point any both logical and compassionate point of view would be welcome.
I apologize for any spelling/grammar mistakes, I got no sleep last night and I'm exhausted...
Thanks for reading!