Hi! Thanks for reading my post. I have a very good friend of mine who is 33 years old and is engaged to a man she has known for one year. They are very different from each other and since I've known my friend for the past 5 years, I've noticed a change in her since she started dating her now fiance. It's not a terrible change, but she now drinks, uses more advanced vocabulary that I'm sure that he uses and has become even more insecure. He moved to her area last year and he didn't know anyone, so she took it upon herself to be his only social life and has been with him almost every day since they started dating. I didn't quite think that was healthy with them being together so much or the fact that she was evolving into someone I didn't recognize. I really don't think she has shown him her "real" self in fear that he would not like her as much and now I think, everything is backlashing into her face.
Well, fast forward several more months and they are engaged. They are getting married in a couple of months and she is absolutely miserable planning her wedding basically b/c of her fiance. He takes a long time to make a decision and doesn't even trust her to pick out an appropriate evite for their wedding, so he wants to do it. She mentioned to me that she thinks that she is "temporary" for him, and that he will end up with a gorgeous business woman of some sort. She also mentioned to me that she's been tempted to take off her wedding ring a couple of times to affect him during one of their fights. She is so frustrated and told me that she didn't know how hard work a relationship was.
Since I know her so well and I know her true self, I really don't recognize her anymore and it hurts to see her like this. Should I talk to her about my concerns here? She is really fragile right now, but I'm so concerned for her well being.