I thought I could share him but now......

[Down4Life]

I got into this open relationship 2 years ago. Im only with him but he has 2 other women. It was cool in the beginning but now, I have fallen madly in love. He is truely my soulmate, best friend, lover, my dogg. We click like water in a pool. He is very open about his other relationships, I even have provided advice before. Now, I know I want more and I know he can't give it to me. I have really thought about moving to another state to escape what will be a aching heart and him clocking out if I try to breakup with him. Tried it before, was an ugly situation. He does spend most of his time with me but he still has them. I deserve better but he completes me. Ugh... I pray he will give up his idology of thinking he has to have more than 1 woman so they always stay on their game. I know I must do something but I definately never want him out of my life just in a safer capacity. HELP....

[vashti]

There is no solution to our problem. He has been having his cake, and eating it, too. Why would he want to give that up after all this time?

If you want a monogamous man, you will probably have to start over.

[Superfantastich]

The only way to possibly getting what you want is an ultimatum, but you have to be willing to leave him and also accept the fact that there is a good chance he will just say no

[Gratedwasabi]

You've reinforced his behavior for 2 years. Why in the world would anything you say against it now even register?

If it bothers you, leave. You've encouraged him for all this time.. a sudden ultimatum will be funny, at best.

[blinki]

i can't even imagine allowing/tolerating that sort of thing. and you gave him permission?! and advice?! what the heck!!! i don't really have any advice, i just can't believe what i just read.

it's too late now if you want him exclusively. too late.

[reeba]

He already knows you aren't happy with it. And he is continuing with it & you are grudgingly continuing with it. And now you are complaining to us about it?

You couldn't change the situaiton. Nor can we.

[surfhb]

Why do people insist on living in "open relationships" ?? Ive never heard of any working out and it goes against millions of years of human evolution!

[kezzy]

Down4life i sort of feel your pain

Except my situation is i am seeing (i guess its seeing) my ex who is with somoene else

Some days i find myself giving him advice for her, even though i wish they would just fall aprt and he would realise what he had before and come back to me

In your head you think i want him to youself, in your heart it says dont throw away these perfect moments for the imperfection of the overall situation

You could try giving him an ultimatum, but if you let him walk over you he will carry on, and like me you will probably keep letting him even though everyone, including yourself deep down know its stupid and u deserve better

I know thats not really advice but i hope it helps in a way to know you aren't alone xxx