distance love works ??

[kitkatlove]

i have been with my boyfriend for like 10 months now i think , but i have known him for like 5 years , i have a problem with him actually "us" that we live in different countries , im here in the US , and he is in another country right now , havent seen him for over a year now ,and thats kinda really hard for me he doesnt have a problem with it , cuz he really loves me he really does he is like obsessed with me , and i love him back too , like crazy , but im starting to feel different these days , like i dunno if i can continue like this , i need someone with me beside me , yah he is always here for we talk everyday for hours , i am just so confused if i love him or not , like he wants to coninue living his life with me and get married and staff , but i think we are so young to think about that , i m only 16 and he is 17 , i dont know if he is the right guy for me , do you think i can decide now ??

i know im writing a lot im sorry , i just need help

and the other thing that he HATES me talking to other guys , like he doesnt let me talk to boys at all , and i was ok with it , i was like ok i wont , but now i feel like no , i need some people in my life , like i feel like im living only with him and thats it , he just wants me to be his and no one else's , and to be honest i am not that kind of girl , i am a cheerful happy crazy girl that likes to go out alot , with boys and girls and just chill , but since he came to my life i changed for him , but i think now im regreting what i did , i want my old life back but without losing , i dunno how , and i dont wanna hurt him , so i seriously dont know what to do shall i be with him ? or shall i break up with him ??
THANKS

[VincenzoG91]

Strike 1: You're both young. In the next few years, you will both be growing and changing, and will most likely drift apart anyway.

Strike 2: You have an extremely long-distance relationship right now, and neither one of you is probably going to be able to move closer any time soon.

Strike 3: He's jealous, so he will have a limited ability to cope with a long distance relationship.

This isn't going to work out.

[Boisdevie]

Agree. It ain't gonna work. No way no how.

[devonbrown]

Long distance doesn't cause problems, but it amplifies the ones already in existence. Case in point, his jealousy. He doesn't want you to talk to any boys? Ever? Wow. That is really extreme and shows the lack of faith he has in you. I would let him know that you will talk to whomever you like and if he doesn't like it then that is too bad. He needs to trust you. If he doesn't, then you know the depth of his feelings for you.

Good luck.

[kitkatlove]

thnx guys for the replies , really needed support to break up with him , its really hard to do so , and yah i know IT AINT GONNA WORK

[kitkatlove]

. Case in point, his jealousy. He doesn't want you to talk to any boys? Ever? Wow. That is really extreme and shows the lack of faith he has in you. I would let him know that you will talk to whomever you like and if he doesn't like it then that is too bad. He needs to trust you. If he doesn't, then you know the depth of his feelings for you.

Good luck.

Thanx devon that really assures me that he doesnt trust me , i dont know he is really wierd , TIME FOR A CHANGE and he needs to know who i am , and ill do what ever i want , THANKS