Hanging out on her time?

[nukl92]

I also posted this in the Ask a Female Forums:

if u dont want to read all that follows, i understand. i just really wanna know if a girl that says she is gonna try to hangout with u, then cancels to do something else, actually likes u? or is just playing u? or just doesnt realize it hurts my feelings? read on if u really wanna understand my situation.

so im in college and have had class with a girl this whole semester. we recently just actually started talking in class. probably about a month. nothing much, just working together on revisions (english class) and maybe a little convo with her and the other classmates.

the first time we hungout outside of class was about 2 weeks ago. we didnt really hangout lol. it was a friday night and we were gonna meet up at a party, but it got busted by the cops (this is a college campus) before i got there to meet her, so we had a series of texts calls to find a nother place and meet up. we ended up meeting at a a place where we couldnt get into. she said she is just gonna go back to her dorm and drink with friends. she invited, but i was like nah, i gotta stay with my friends. she didnt really pursue inviting me any further. when i got home, she texted me telling me i suck and we had a drunk texting convo. it was for a few hours, nothing like i want u or anything, just like y dont u ever talk to me in class? and just a bunch of bullshitting.

so on the following tuesday i texted her asking about an assignment. i made a joke "see, we can b nice to eachother" (were sarcastic douchebags to eachother) and shes like, "im really not a mean person" so after that we talked for awhile. we were talking about not really knowing eachother and i said"u should get to know me" and she said "got game huh?" we talked about getting to know eachother and i said "well that makes me wanna hangout with you" she then again invited me to a party that she did the other day in class after she said she was a boring person. so i said "i would but u said ur boring" she said "jk" i then told her "u better prove me wrong" she said "i dont have to prove anything, ur the good boy remember?" (we talked about how i was a good kid) the next few texts didnt make sense then she said "so ur gonna have fun with a boring person?" i said "i hope i have fun with a non boring person" she said "theyre will be plenty of drunk girls for u to spit game on" then i asked, "i cant spit game on u?" she said "nope " then i said "damn i liked u too" she said, "lol im sure" then i said, "im serious, but ok" then she said "ok i guess your allowed to hit on me then" then i said "well i dont wanna waste my time if its not gonna be worth it" then she said "it will be worth it" then she said" i like how ur blunt about everything lol" i said "i just dont like playing games" then she said "girls are good at playing mind games" then i said "i dont like u telling me that" she asked "why" i said "it might all be a mind game" and she said "dont worry, im pretty straight forward" then she explained to me how she used to be heartless in high school and was a tease. she reassured me she isnt like that anymore. i skipped class the next day because i didnt write a paper required for the class. she texted me telling me "way to skip!" so i was happy she noticed and cared i wasnt there.

so over the weekend i went to the party she invited me to. i couldnt find her, or the other girl i was gonna see there. the other girl is a good friend, im not two timing or anything. she finally arrived, she walked in, and went through all her hellos and stuff, she didnt seem real into seeing me there. so i went downstairs to play pong to kill sometime and not suffocate her. i then ewnt back upstairs and asked her to dance. she made an excuse of her being all sweaty and nasty, i was like idc and blah blah blah, we didnt dance. i went back downstairs. the party got busted and we came across eachother outside. she introduced me to her friends, and they were trying to find somewhere else to go, i was upset she denied me on the dance and didnt seem very confrontational, so i left with my friends and didnt care where she went. i got home again, and this time i started the drunk texting. i started the convo with "everything got busted" we talked about cops. then i said "im kinda bummed u didnt dance with me" she said "i wanted to chat with my friends more" i said "if u didnt wanna dance with me, u coulda just told me" (remember we are drunk) she said "but i dont like dancing" and i said "but not with me" she then said " i kinda like u" and i said "well i kinda like u" shes like "no u dont" and i said "ya i do, i dont believe u like me" she then said "i dont lie" i said "i hope not cuz i really like u" she said "but u barely know me" i said "we should get to know eachother" she then asked me a series of questions, kinda random lol. after the questioning she asked me to come over/ i said i didnt want to cuz its far, and my drunk ass wouldnt make it. i said "believe me i wanna" she said "dont worry about it, im drunk anyway" i said "hopefully ur not too drunk and actually do like me" then she randomly tells me she was with a guy tonight. i was like "what do u mean" she said again, "i was with someone else" i said "well thats good to know, if ur with a dude, just tell me, if u dont like me, just tell me" she then said "no i like u, im not "with" anyone" "i said "u just told me u where, i dont like getting messed with" she said she wanted to talk to me, but she was with the other guy. the story was that she was with him because he likes her and its her friends cousin, he works alot and only comes out sometimes, so im not talking to him. so me being drunk and ballsy, i asked " ok cool, so are we talking?" she said "idk are we?" i said "im in if ur in lol" then she said "but i would barely see u" (she is going to another school about an hour away next year) i said "we can visit eachother" she said "were drunk, we'll talk tomorrow"so then she called me and we talked drunk for a few mins then she hung up on me by accident.

we talked the next day when we were sober and i asked if she meant that she liked me last night. she said "im attracted to u, but it takes alottt for me to like someone"

so this week we have went to the library twice to fix papers we have due in english. she practically did them for me. at the end of our first library session, she invited me to go see a movie, and i asked what it was and it was the soul surfer movie, i said i dont wanna see a chick flick. of course, i didnt really care what movie it was, i just wanna go to the movies with her. if she asked again i woulda said yes, but she didnt pursue it that much so i didnt go. the next library session, i walked her home, (its not very safe to walk alone as a girl on our campus) she said she appreciated it. when we got to her place, it started raining and she offered to drive me back to where i live. i didnt want her to cuz i wanted to take her to the door and have the classic movie scene where she invites me up, or we end on a kiss close. she insisted on driving me home because of the rain, so that failed.

the next day in class i invited her on a date. i told her i didnt have a car so she would have to drive, she was cool on that. i told her maybe we could go that night for maybe a dinner and a movie, or either one, or we could go back to the library and work on english again. i dont care how i spend time with her, i just want to.

she texted me later asking if i wanted to go line dancing, but im not a country kinda guy, so i said no thanks. i said so that a raincheck on dinner/movies/library? and she said we could do it sometime next weekend. she texted me "heyy sweet thang" after line dancing/ i said "hey there sweetheart" thinking she was drunk, but she ended up not being drunk lol. so we talked for a little bit. she asked if i wanted to do another library session tomorrow and i said ya, we kinda figured out a time, i had work and she had class after 5:00 so we said we would figure it out tomorrow. i asked her if she wanted to come over to watch a movie and she said she had a floor meeting at the time i get out of work. i then asked if she wanted to after that, she said she had to get up early, but probably, she wasnt promising anything though.

i texted her the next morning asking if she still wanted to go and she said she was packing her room to go home. i mean, its just the library, but i felt bad she changed her plans, even though it was a legitimate reason.

so then i messaged her on facebook an hour before work and asked her if she would b able to come. she then invited me to "the lounge" its a club by campus. i told her i couldnt go because im not 21. and she was like "ur gay "

so that was the second time she kinda blew me off in the same day. so thats the background. too short? lol sorry for the length, and i REALLLLYY appreciate it if u actually read this. i just wanted ppl to understand my situation. i have this kinda time right now because im sitting here not hanging out with the girl i wanted to hang out with tonight. i just wanna know, is this girl into me? is she just one of the girls that doesnt think she is hurting my feelings by "blowing me off." i guess its not really "blowing me off" because she still invites me to do what she is doing. it just kinda bums me out.

[surfhb]

Post is way too long!

Dude! Dont you know to never turn down a girl when she ask you or offers to do something? Jeez! Don't do it again!

[nukl92]

Post is way too long!

Dude! Dont you know to never turn down a girl when she ask you or offers to do something? Jeez! Don't do it again!

ya i know its long, i had time lol, sorry. but ya, definitely not turning down anymore