Originally Posted by
Jolicoeur
Hey a19drift, let me share a secret with you: we guys are bad at multiple meaning communication. When your guy texted "It's fine, no big deal", he meant just that. There is very probably nothing to read between the lines.
Let me share you another secret: we guys are lousy mind readers. If you wanted him to ask you to come over, a better text would have been "I still want to see you. Can we meet later?".
You see what I did there? I put some useful straight-to-the-point information in that message. Believe me, this works with us. The only thing that would have worked even better is if you had added "I want you to fµçk my brains out". Again, undeniable information. I know this must sound like magic to you girls, but this actually works with us.
Third piece of free advice, is that the best way to get on a guy's nerves is to think he meant something else after he repeated more than once what he meant.
G: "Are you upset?"
B: "No." <--- true
G: "Are you really not upset?"
B: "No" <--- still true
G: "Really, 'cause... really not upset?"
B: "NOOOOOO!!!" <--- not true anymore
The thing here is that we can not get out of this dialogue. There is no exit. We don't use innuendo like that and so there is no way to end this. We feel trapped.
So, fourth piece of advice is to tell him later that it was a misunderstanding and get on with your relationship. Do not start a conversation about it. Just clean closure and get on. Maybe a little kiss for good measures and end-of-story.
Last piece of advice, and this is probably the most important one you'll ever get from a guy: do not in any way ever, and I cannot stress this enough, ever, get back to this conversation. Even if you remember every little detail of this situation in a quarter of a century from now, your guy will have forgotten everything about it in a couple of days. Getting back to him about it is not only unfair, but also unnecessarily stupid.
All the best to you,
J.