Just broke up with her :( advice needed.

[Bigboy77]

ok I'll listen...NC it is again ...
How am i ever going to see her if i cant ask her to come out

[jiraiya111]

if u wanna see her theres nothing wrong with asking her if she fancys a walk and have a lil catch up, just dont come on too strong

[Superfantastich]

How long until you think you will be moving back exactly?

[Bigboy77]

I'm back home for good now..

[Superfantastich]

Ok, was it always planned out would be back so soon?
seems silly to break up over that time you spent apart

[Bigboy77]

yes i was always coming back at this time.
She fell out of love with me while i was gone because i put my work and buisness first cause i had to for those 3 months..
I'm back now and i feel like i just need to spend more time with her to fix this but i also feel she needs space im so confused. she is not putting any effort in to see me and im not putting any effort in to see her either. I just dont want to seem clingy or needy. It's a mess. She isnt in love with me anymore but she still loves me.

[jiraiya111]

seems ur both being stubborn about who asks to meet first. if u wanna fix things uve got to show it, ask her if she wants to hang out and catch up.
ur not gonna get anywhere if u dont try

[Bigboy77]

i asked her and she said she was busy but soon.

[Bigboy77]

She sent me this

"im not ready to work on and fix things yet, i just need some space and time to myself. i dont feel the same about you as i used to, and it really upsets me cause i want to really bad! its very frusterating. i feel like if were ment to be together then itll happen on its own, but im not gunna force feelings. im so sorry, its even harder that you are such a nice person, cause you havnt done anything to deserve this.
i still have a lot of love for you"


This bugs me so much. Obviously she doesnt feel the same about me, but not seeing me isnt going to make it any better! **** this frusterates me. I've barely seen her the last 3 months and she thinks even more time apart is going to make things better?

What do i say to this??

ugh i want to freak out at her, when she was in love she said she would never do this to me and yet here we are. She couldnt keep her commitment even though she said she would no matter what. The butterflies always come and go when your with someone for a long time. It pisses me off how people always give up once they go away.

[Bigboy77]

i ended up replying " hey,not a problem"
Time to move on

[Bigboy77]

Here's my own advice to myself :

Cut contact for a month or until she communicates she wants to meet up.
Jog everyday, lift weights eat healthy
Gotten some new clothes already
Meet other women and hook up if i feel like it
Bought 2 months of yoga
Don't get angry or guilt trip her.