I'm currently in a long distance relationship of a few months.
I just found out my dad has cancer stage 3. I told my bf I needed him to be there for me..since we're long distance, I wanted him to call me everyday for a week or two just so i could vent my frustration/sadness. My boyfriend agreed to be there for me.
Here's the problem. My boyfriend is a professional athlete. Before big games, he ends up staying over at the gym overnight...orders from his coach. He lost a couple of very important games in the last month. His coach thinks I am to blame (i am apparently a distraction for him or what not). Though my bf agreed to call me everyday, he said he wasn't able to cause his coach was really disappointed with his performance lately and locks up his phone in some locker room and sometimes keeps it from him for days. My bf needs to lose weight and basically his coach punishes him by keeping his phone from him. Because this next game in a week is his only chance of making it to the big leagues and he lost the last two in the past month.
I didn't hear from my bf for a couple days and I was really upset he didn't keep his word. Then I got an email from my bf's friend at the gym saying that the coach got angry and broke his phone and he is being watched 24-7 and can't call me, or even his parents, and he's really sorry. He told me to email his friend if I need to tell him anything.
I know my bf is planning on ending his ahtlete career in the near future, so I know that this stupid coach won't exist in his life forever. But the fact that he couldn't be there fore me when I really needed him drove me buzurks, and I feel I'm losing trust in him being there for him when I really need him the most. How do I know in the future he can't be there for me, due to some other person in his life like a nasty boss at work, etc? I wish he stood up to his coach and said enough is enough, but i know he's really scared of his coach.
Now I'm waiting for a week or so till after the game to talk to him. I'm not sure what I'm going to say, or how to handle it best. I'm not happy cause my needs arem't being met, i didn't think 15 minutes was asking too much from anyone... but at the same time, I really like this guy.
Any suggestions? What should I do?