Need Help Communicating
So I’m getting sick of being misinterpreted in my written communications.
I know there are some things I can’t control like a person’ s past that makes them immediately jump to conclusions, but I know I’m responsible for the amount of miscommunication in my written communications as well.
Basically what’s going on is a few people (guys for the most part) have told me I come off very manipulative and “girlfriendy” as they put it in emails and text messages. They feel like I’m whining, and trying to guilt trip them. But it’s nothing I do intentionally and now it’s costing me friendships. It’s something I’m willing to work on, but I don’t what steps I should take to help eliminate statements that could be taken negative and manipulative.
I’m considering either a color-coded system or attaching an audio file of me reading the email aloud so the recipient knows the intent behind statements made. These ideas are of course kind of silly but it’s all I got.
One big problem is I know I can have a very dark sarcastic sense of humor. Very dead pan and I’m going to try eliminating that from my written correspondences.
What other suggestions does Love Forum have to minimize miscommunication? I should point out this does not happen with work correspondence only with friends (and boyfriends) generally through texts and emails. I know the obvious answer is more in-person interaction but that isn’t always a possibility so other than that… what can I do?
Ted, how do I explain this to you. Last night, I ate the best cake of my life. Do you think I'm gonna let that cake out of my life? Hell no. I'm gonna find out what bakery made that cake and I'm gonna get some more cake.